Is it worth it to lose your virginity just for the hell of it?

Question

Everyone in my school has... so I'm thinking that I should just have one incident of casual, impersonal, loveless sex... just to say that I did it. It gets very annoying dodging the virginity question at my age.

For those of you who HAVE done it while in high school, was it worth it? Would you have waited if you could do everything over again?
I mean... what's wrong with it... it'll be safe sex.

Can someone please talk me out of this?

I'm 17, by the way... it's not like I'm 35.

Answer 1

1) Everyone in your school has NOT done it. They're just as uncomfortable as you are with the viginity question, so they lie about it.

2) Don't lose it in response to a social lie.

3) Is it life-changing? Not sure I buy that. At least not for everyone. BUT... if you're the one whose male friend has a hole in the condom, or more likely, doesn't put it on right, or it rips open in a passionate moment, whatever - then being a mother at 17 years old will be life changing. Even if you chose to abort. Count on it.

4) It is a moment that you don't forget. So make it a pleasant memory, not a chore to be over and done with. You will remember who, when, where and what it was like. That memory will live in your head, not with "everyone else at school". When you are thirty, forty, fifty - that memory will live with you, so do you want to smile when you think about it, or shake your head and say what the hell was I thinking?

Answer 2

I'm not going to talk you out of anything. I will say this, the casual crap your right it will be just that you'll lay there and she will too and someday when you look back on your first time you wont be able to even remember her name. That may be just how you want it, but what about the feelings? What about the emotion? The energy you put into it not just the physical but the time and mental energy you put into psyching yourself up to actually giving it all away for a basic one nightstand cuz that's all it will be. Think long and hard, you might as well hire a whore it would end up costing about the same and you'd get just as much. This girl your with has most likely been around the block a time or too. I was like you a lone survivor in a pack of wolves in my school and guess what I was a female so go figure. I didn't give it away, I waited cause I chose to wait for the right guy just as you have the right to choose. Don't let anyone pressure you to run with the pack. Most likely half of these assholes haven't even done half of what they say they have any way. When she comes along you will know it and you will also know when you want to give away the key to more then just your heart. I wish you peace with all that you are wrestling with I don't envie you at all, but I do know in my heart of <3's you'll come out on top and make the right choice.

Answer 3

Same here, I doubt everyone in your school has. Even if they or you did, there's nothing to brag about it because chances are that no one really cares. Besides, if so many people are doing it, what makes you who you are if you're going to follow whatever they're doing? There are still people in this world, adults, who are virgins, and they're still just like any other normal adult who has done it.

Sure, it'll be safe sex. But imagine what will happen when you go into a serious relationship one day, and your partner discovers that you're not a virgin after all...? Once you lose it, there's no going back, at least not in the same way as you were before.

Answer 4

Hmmm how to answer this one. I did have sex in high school, but it was with someone I truly loved and ended up marrying and have been married now for 22 years (together 28 years). My answer to you is that it is not worth it, but you must ultimately decide that for yourself. You know how you personally feel about it better than any of us. I would say if you do decide to go forward with it, that you do it for the right reason's and not just to do it and by ALL means protect yourself. Pick out a person you respect and have feelings for and that you will feel comfortable with and have an enjoyable experience with. Please don't do it just because others have - do it because you want to and can live with it afterward. Best of luck and hope you make the right decision.
Joe

Answer 5

i did it before high school, and i wished i had waited, there should be at least a love connection before you decide to have sex of any kind, let the jerks have their smart remarks, its because they are jealous. in the end it will make you feel better about yourself and the choices you made. sex just for the sake of "getting it over" is a real bad idea, you will regret it later if you do it for a reason like that. and regret really hurts later in life as you get older.

Answer 6

there's something to be said for saving it till marriage, some girls feel it's sweet, some think it's stupid, depends really on what you think though. It sounds kinda like you don't want to and are peer pressured into doing it to fit in. Don't do that my man, at the very least save it for that special someone than just a fling.

Answer 7

If you are 17 and you don't feel the need to be in love to have sex, then don't worry about it! Being a virgin is not that big a deal, especially going into your age. I wasn't in love with the girl I went to bed with at that age, and it still doesn't bother me! But, if you WANT to be talked out of this, then maybe you just don't feel ready.

Answer 8

dont do anyhting jusyt cuz "everybody" else has.. cuz i doubt" everybody " in your school has.. 2 the only thing you should do "for the hell of it" is bungee jump.. theres nothing"wrong" with it.. how about read real books on it not porn .. with i was 17 i was at thelibrary reading any book i could find on it( like but not limited to the joys of sex series.. ) and when ifinally did lose it.. (i was 18) it blew her mind. when somebody asked you if your a virgin ask em why do they want to know.. . then look em right in the eye and say yes.. dammit.. what of it.. (they willprobably make fun of you but they do that about anyhting anyway ) besides a girl hearing that.. ( whos probbaly a virgin herself) will be impressed. when they ask why say i dont want a baby.. when they say birth control say condoms break.. use the skil lof back talking to your parents j/k heh to work for you with that sort of peer pressure.
if you dont feel your ready , and it dosent read like you do .. then dont do it if you need a reason not to .. " just for the hell of it".. dont have sex

Answer 9

Look... you KNOW the right answer.

This is a momentous event and occasion. It WILL be something you'll remember FOREVER... or until Alzheimer's occurs.

WAIT for the guy who DESERVES this honor... It's better for YOU, It's better for HIM... It's better for the PLANET.

You seem smart. Doing *anything* because of peer pressure... SUCKS.. doing THIS... is insane.

You may not think this is COOL, but... "I'm saving it for the RIGHT GUY"... is a really really appropriate philosophy...

And if you decide to DO THE WRONG Thing... You've got my email address... OKAY... KIDDING on that last part!

Answer 10

Just wait it out. Losing your virginity is something you want to save for the girl you truely love, not do it just because everyone else is doing it. Would you jump in front of a moving train if that's what all the cool people were doing? I thik not.
Not being stupid is worth not fitting in.