I've been on the otherside of this - i.e been with someone that's been around a lot and I've just been told to deal with it, so if I flip the coin, what's stopping me from being the same? After all if I find someone I want to be with and they love me they'll just have to deal with it, right?
2006-06-17 06:57:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you find someone you want to be with and they love you, then it should be THEM that you have sex with, not anyone else.
Why not wait until you find that person instead of risking STDs now, and for what? Experience?
Sex is about love and intimacy, not just getting laid. Ignore this ex and whatever they said to you, you don't have to stoop to their level to get revenge or whatever it is that you're looking for.
2006-06-17 07:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Rogue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women and men can sleep around as much as they like.There is no difference these days. I don't no anyone that would think a girl a whore for having had lots of partners. Your'e not suposed to forget your partners past your supposed to be ok with it other wise split. People often have trouble dealing with a partners past, but really thats upto them and if its too much of a problem it is and you can split and find someone for whom it isn't a problem. Thing you've got ask yourself is do I really want to sleep around a lot? And if you do who is it you will have sex with. I myself have never had good experiences with one night stands so prefer waiting for someone I have a real attraction for. But thats just me. Do what you want always be considerate of the other person and never lie or hide your true intentions from them and always use a condom (patronising I know but nobody likes them and everyone knows sex is better without). I hope you have some good times.
2006-06-18 06:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by freddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a strange question if , as you say you've been on the other side of this and know what it's like? Are you uncomfortable with the idea? Why do you feel you have to sleep around? Are there issues you haven't dealt with yet? Just be careful honey and make sure that whatever you do , you do because you are completeley comfortable with yourself, not for revenge or kudos!
2006-06-17 07:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by crabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to stop you from doing the same as it's a choice only you can make. The thing is, you have to deal with that choice, regardless of the next person you fall in love with.
Think of it this way - what would you actually and honestly prefer to say to someone you want to be with, whom you love and who loves you? Would you want to be saying to them 'I've slept around a lot, deal with it'? That's where you answer is.
2006-06-28 06:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if you are going to be sleeping around because it is really what you want to do then be safe and go for it. BUT if you are doing this so you can sort of do what your ex did to you to someone else then its really not going to end up making you feel better in the long run.
2006-06-17 07:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by elijahjaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, they'll have to deal with it. And so will you. These days there are several kinds of incurable STDs (genital herpes, hepatitis B, human papilloma virus, and HIV which leads to AIDS)... and one of those is still deadly, even though they're making progress in treating it and extending the life expectancy of those who get it. Do you really think sleeping around will help you get even with your former partner? And even more important... is it really worth it?
2006-06-17 07:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never slept around, had a one night stand or bedded someone on the first date. I think there are people who can and people who can't. I'm one of the ones who can't. I wish - sometime - that I could, but then if I did I wouldn't be me. Don't think you have to be like everybody else - you don't.
2006-06-26 22:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Robbie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
if you had a bad experience does not mean you have to punish an other person
if you want sleeping around and you are single and don't care about AIDS you are free like a bird ,and do what ever you like
but if you are in a serious relationship don't do that because you will loos her/him
2006-06-17 07:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by qwq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because altho you are a guy and it is "ok" for u to sleep around where as women they would be a "whore" do u really want a rep like that on your back? ya they have to deal with it but is it really gonna look good on you?
2006-06-17 07:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a bit more respect for yourself.
Only sleep with someone you really care about not anyone & everyone for revenge.
2006-06-28 18:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋