My mom had several peices of expensive jewlery marked and assigned to her 3 grand daughters and to each of us 3 girls. A few days after my mom's funeral, we were packing up her things and were unable to find this jewlery. Only 2 people had a key to the house while mom was at the Cleveland Clinic, my suspected sister's husband and my other sister. We believe my sister may have called her husband, told him where the jewlery was at, and had him take it. Or, during the time my mom was on her death bed, she stuck the bag in her purse and took them. Or, while we were making arrangements for mom's funeral, she stole them then. Either way, the jewlery is still missing.
2006-06-17 06:49:11 · 22 answers · asked by kimberly_szczepanik43560 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not accuse anyone, you are not omniscient. While you're probably correct in your suspicions, since you cannot prove her thievery, you will tarnish your own reputation. Do not discuss this matter privately with your suspected sister, instead hold a family meeting that would involve all 3 daughters and 3 granddaughters. Let everyone know the situation and see what the group wants to do.
You might consider filing a police report for insurance purposes. If you have pictures of the pieces, you could circulate them in local pawn shops.
This is why people should give away the stuff before they die.
2006-06-17 06:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by pamspraises 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter what your family is already disrupted by your suspicions which may bave some basis in fact.consult first if there was an executor of the will,or a trust.after that you should try to estimate the value of what you think is missing to determine how far you want to go if the will or trust cannot help.check wiyh the court to see if a value was placed on estate.If you can name or show from pictures items that are missing a lawyer willusually give you a free consultation maybe small claims coura might work or just filing the claim might force her to cough it up.ou and your will not have a very good relationship so you may as well try to resolve the jewelry issue.Just weigh the value of the jewelry and the mental strain versus efforts to get it back evev if you should
2006-06-25 12:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by MAGGIENICE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there isn't very much trust in your family and that is ashame. First of all, if I was you I would not accuse anybody of anything. You don't have solid proof of wrongdoings. Was it actually in the will that the jewelry would go to certain relatives or not? You said: marked and assigned, what does that mean? I do not believe she had a will but what do I truly know. I am just trying to give you some good advice.
Your family could get disrupted and hurt but I recommend a family meeting and discuss the issue.
Lay your cards out on the table and find out for sure who took what and if someone did something they shouldn't have.
Its bad enough to lose a loved one but for something like what you said happened makes things a whole lot worse.
I am sorry about your mothers passing and your agony on this issue and I truly hope you will call a meeting and get to the bottom of this.
Please don't worry too much about it, this happens everywhere all of the time. Some people in families
just wait for an opportunity to do something very stupid.
Good Luck with your family
2006-06-24 05:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why worry about the jewelry any way? Your mom is dead it was her jewelry any how, never yours, you have memories of your mom. that is worth so much more. Material things are just that , nothing can compare to all of the memories you hold of your mother. And the memories will go with you forever not the jewelry. Families are such a suprise, they are the ones that you should be able to turn to in times of need instead they seem to be the needy ones. In the end we all get what we deserve, so if you don't get any jewelry now no problem, let it go why fight and cause more problems? The jewelry can't and won't bring your mom back, it doesn't help you remember all of the good times, actually it doesn't have any real value.....what is in your heart is worth more than gold! Just forgive them and move on!
2006-06-29 08:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just know you are the better person and move on.
If you can, find a pic of your Mom that no one else has. Maybe one w/ them, the theif(s), in the pic., haha. Blow it up and put into an elaborate frame for them see. When they want a copy, say you could not bring yourself to remove it from the frame, it will remain one of a kind. (it would drive most people nuts if they don't have the pic of themself and the deceased). You can take it down later and act like you have no idea where it went.
2006-06-30 08:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if this will help because I don't know if the person/s that took it was for money or they just wanted it.
My mom passed away many years ago. Her wedding rings came up missing. My Dad had a couple of people he suspected. He spoke of the rings but he didn't accuse anyone of stealing it. He said the rings had no value in money, only sentimental value.
The rings some how showed up just a couple of days later.
2006-06-30 03:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Isn't it awful how the worse family fights happen at funerals, and over possessions. For me I would let it go, apparantly she will not give them up, or else she would have already. She may have even sold them. Unless you want a family 'WAR', I suggest just leave it alone. The world is Round, and what comes around, goes around.
2006-06-28 01:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, take a .44 Magnum, put it in her mouth and ask her to write down where the jewelry is or sign a check for the amount she owes, then pull the trigger.
2006-06-25 14:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by The Burro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in about the same situation. everything was supposed to be split down the middle between a rotten sister and myself. i walked away with my dignity. she is the one that watches over her shoulder and has to live with what she has done.
i figure ill get it all back in the end as her own daughters wont have a thing to do with her. and if she can live with it, i can live without it. i have the love of her kids and mine. she will be alone and unloved when she dies. i wont be
2006-06-28 02:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My step sister did the same thing with my dead father's avon collectable bottles. No matter what our siblings do, they cannot take our memories away. You should just let it go, life is toooooo short for the extra drama.
2006-06-30 09:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by CURIOUS 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋