i was "assulted" while walking home from a fast food place 2 summers ago...how do i even BEGIN 2 tell sum1???

Question

its like everytime i try...i clam up...im seeing sum 1..rite now...the 1st person i wanna tell is my mom..absolutely NO one knows...how can i tell ANY1 sumthin like this...????? should i just let it go? i mean its been two yrs but damn is it ever eating at me lately...sum1 just give me a few words to start w/...maybe i can do sumthing from there...plz...plllzzzz...i just wanna kno where 2 begin...

Answer 1

Check the phone book or Internet for a rape crisis center in your area. It might be easier to talk to a stranger than to your mother, at least at first.

Answer 2

Sweetie, you've got to get some help. I know it is scary, I've been there myself, but it will be ok. As Dr. Phil says, "monsters live in the dark". Once you shine a light on it, the monster will go away. You can't just "let it go". If it is really bothering you, tell someone you can trust. A rape crisis center is a good place to try. Also, there are help lines, and crisis lines. Call your local United Way. They can give you phone numbers for the places that can help you. If you are too embarrassed, tell them that you are calling for a friend who was sexually assaulted and you need some phone numbers to give to her. Most of all, remember that what happened was not your fault. You don't need to feel any shame over what happened. The one who should be ashamed is the person who hurt you. There is nothing you could have done that would make you "deserve" to be assaulted. If you really feel like you can trust your mom, go to her and say, mom, I need to tell you something, but I'm really scared. I just need you to listen until I'm done, and it is going to be hard to say. If you can't get the words out then, write it down and hand it to her. The first time I had to say it, to a therapist, I couldn't even get the words out, so she handed me a paper and pen and I wrote just enough for her to understand. After you get it out the first time, it gets much easier. I promise. Please reach out for help. Don't suffer this alone. One in four women have been sexually assaulted- a whole lot of us can understand exactly what you are feeling. Hearts and hugs to you.

Answer 3

You can't let it go - because you shouldn't and if you could you would have already.

You are displaying symptoms of guilt - embarrassment is a form of guilt and acceptance that what happened to you was your fault. No Way!

You need to go to the closest hospital emergency room and speak to a nurse. It doesn't matter if it occurred 2 days ago or 2 years ago. They will point you in the right direction for much -needed counselling - Don't wait!

If the assault is not dealt with, you may find yourself having an emotional breakdown later on - when you are married, with kids, and it will be even more difficult to come through it okay.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I am sorry you have to experience this.

I would recommend you tell your mother ONLY if you think that is appropriate. If you don't have a loving, supportive and caring mother, then don't tell. Only you know how she is despite the fact that society tries to tell us "all mothers are loving." They are not.

Secondly, you might find benefit it talking to someone who understands without first divulging to people who may or may not understand. There are many online support groups for assault survivors. Once you have shared your experience and feelings and feel more comfortable just getting it out, you can decide who to tell in your Face-to-Face world next.

The hardest part of surviving abuse (of any kind) is coping with the feelings of self-blame, shame and lack of understanding from other people. As you walk this course, you will meet all kinds of people, some of whom will blame you or tell you to "get over it." Your healing journey is YOURS and you have to do it the way that feels right for you. If there was one "right" way, everybody would be recovered by now. Take it at your own pace.

If you have access to a public library or can buy a book, there is a good one titled "I Can't Get Over It." It is somewhat clinical (in parts) but an excellent book.

All best wishes to you.

Answer 5

First of all I am so sorry this happened to you. I am a victim of something like that myself.

It is hard, I know it is, but find a friend, your Mother, me, a councelor, someone to talk to about it. In most counties if you look in the phone book there is a 24 hour hotline or crisis line number for victrims and there are trained staff answering phones that can help you work through this.

And you have got to do it girl.....or it will just burn inside you htter and hotter. And after you get it off your chest you will be able to begin to heal.

You can email me anytime. [e-mail] I work for a crisis intervention group at a womens domestic violence shelter..... I will help you any way I can.

Answer 6

I'm going to answer this one from two perspectives. With the first answer, I'm going to assume that by "assulted" you mean that you were assaulted in the ***, meaning you were brutally attacked. With the second answer, I'm going to assume that you misspelled assaulted and you meant to say that you were attacked.

1) If you were brutally attacked in your ***, then you need to go to the police and file a report. They will have mugshots for you to look at and hopefully you will remember the face of your attacker. They may not be able to help you, but at least your report will be on file and they can stop this from happening to another person.

2) If you are having problems talking about your assault, or attack, then you may be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. You need to really sit down with someone you trust and talk about it (like your mother). You may even begin to cry or even vomit, but this is a necessary reaction. It is part of the greiving process. You may not believe it, but you mother can help you through all the things that you have been holding inside for so long, simply for the fact that she loves you.

Hopefully, everything will work out for you in the long run, but get it out of your system somehow. It will only eat you up.

Answer 7

Some of these answers are lame. Like "you should've fought back". Totally insensitive and potential for further harm to the survivor. Tell someone at a rape crisis center or contact the local YWCA. It is hard to talk about, but it does get easier. You are not at fault. Keeping this to yourself implies that you are ashamed. Which is often a "normal" feeling after being assaulted. But it takes time and work to free yourself from the feelings that you are having. I send much love and God bless you.

Answer 8

Sounds like you have a real need to talk through what happened to you. Start with someone you really trust. There are a lot of good ideas that have been given to you here including some incredible offers of help by some concerned people.

Don't be ashamed--it's not your fault. But please do get some help so that you can move on. There is too much live to live but it's too short to live in the pain some slug gave you.

God bless you!

Answer 9

If u keep quiet,u'll never be able to let it go. Its time to let it out, its wan't ur fault and u have nothing to be ashamed of. Tell yoour mom or best friend. Believe me,its no use clamming up. I've been sexually abused as a kid by my uncle, and kept quiet about it for years.It didnt help me. Just bugged me all the more and nearly destroyed me. Talk it all out and if u need i, see a therapist..take care..God bless...

Answer 10

This may sound strange, but I suggest that you write down exactly what you said in your question and give it to your mother with an apology for the way you have been behaving since the attack. I do not mean, or suggest for one moment that you have anything whatsoever to apologise for but it is an opener to the letter. Your mother will no doubt agree. Once you get it off your chest once, you will find it much easier to talk about it................