what should i do if i want to dump my boyfriend and yet it will break his heart?

Question

my boyfriend is 4 years older than me. i'm not sure if i really love him but he certainly loves me.

Answer 1

u are selfish.................

Answer 2

That is the hard part of relationships. It may break his heart now, but if you don't really love him, you will be doing him a favor. It's not good for either one of you to be in a relationship if you don't both love each other. Maybe you two just need some time apart. After some time, you may decide that you really do love him and then you can work things out.

Answer 3

Either way it's gonna break his heart. But if ur going to do this u should let him know that u do love him and that u hope that u and he can still be friends. But u can't go on being withhim and ur not ( in love) withhim, it wouldn't be fair to him to have a relationship with someone who's not as in love withhim as he is with you.

Just don't be mean or cold with him, say it in a way that he will feel a little at ease that u didn't just dump him

Answer 4

You better think real hard before breaking someones heart like that. Let me tell ya, you better be real clear on what you want, because there is always someone else who can fill your spot instantly, then you'll be wanting him back (you will). Continue to see him and try to figure why you've had a change of heart. Maybe your talking to much to friends and family who are persuasive enough to get you to break-up with him. Watch yourself. "You're either in or you're out".

Answer 5

If you want to be honest to yourself and to him (even though you don't love him), you need to really search your heart for the right words to tell him how you feel. No one wants to be in a relationship where they are not loved in return.

When you break up with him, there will be some pain and hurt feelings. If he really does love you, it's going to get ugly. However, you will feel better in the long run for living in your truth and being true to yourself. Besides, you can't find the person whom you really will love if you are with someone else. Maybe they are looking for you right now...

Answer 6

well of course the guy is gonna get heartbroken, theres no way to avoid that. If your not sure about it, then finish it now before he gets more attached then he already is. That happend to me too, and let me tell you it was the worst year of my life. Its sad when you love someone so much, but they dont correspond, and they dont leave you cause they feel sad for you. I had to be the one that ended it, cause I was tired of noticing the way she would reject me, but the funny thing is that she was glad at first for letting her go, and months later she felt really sorried for herself for loosing me, now she's the one that wants me back.Funny how I begged her for years, and now shes the one after me. You see you never know what you have until you loose it, she found out first hand. I dont want her any more im with some one else already, so you see unless your very sure you dont want him, dont let him go, cause he could be the one for you, you just dont see it yet. And as for him, dont worry it'll hurt him bad to let him go, but he'll survive and eventually move on.

Answer 7

Sounds like you are simply not sure whether you love him or not? You would know if you did love him.. Fond of him perhaps but no more? It is frightening taking a big decision with no promise it is the right decision BUT if you care about him and you, you do need to think about moving on. Good luck

Answer 8

i guess it depends on how he treats you. does he treat you like your the only girl in the world or just playin. i mean i'm two years older then my girlfriend and sometimes i feel like she doesnt really love me. and it hurts me that i have to feel that way. the longer your together and the more you do together the more your gonna think about everything you two did together and its gonna hurt. it happens to me. i really think that you love him its just that you want to see what else is out there first. and plus you care that you will break his heart. he'll get over it but its gonna hurt and depending how much you two did will effect how long it will take for him to get over you. i would say if your not happy and dont love him then leave him, but like in my case if my gf left me i dont think i could ever get over her. but if shes not happy then its her choice. just like its your choice. you kinda have the control of the relationship. but your always gonna know that he'll probably love you forever and it maybe hard to find another guy like that. hope this helps.

Answer 9

There's nothing worse than an unequal relationship, its not fair on either of u. There's no way to dump someone without hurting them so the best thing to do is just get on with it.

Answer 10

I would watch and take some pointers from the movie, "How To Loose A Guy In 10 Days" or something like that.

Answer 11

Just do it and get it over with. The longer you wait, the worse it will be.It will hurt him more when you cheat on him (if you haven't already) becuase you don't love him. He will get over it in time. There are over 3 billion female humans in the world, you are but one. Hopefully he will be mature enough to see this, say goodbye to you and move on. Also, let him go completely. Don't do this, "I want to be friends," sh*it. That's nonsense. If you don't love him, say goodbye and move on. Don't play games with him and do more damage. That's one of most men's most hated things about women, all the damn mind games. Just move on. He will heal just fine, but if you demand to stay in his life, that will delay his healing process and make him hurt much longer. If you care about him at all, then you will should just go. I know it hurts, but just do it.