What should I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I are having a rough month. We've got some pretty serious problems and lately in the last few weeks have pretty much fought constantly. Last night we had a huge blow out and I think we decided not to move in together. I've cooled off but he's still upset. How do I prove to him that I love him and that I'm sorry for the fight?

Answer 1

It sounds as though both of you were perhaps a little too heated to see everything clearly, or at least be able to talk about the situation rationally. Now you have cooled off, he hasn't. I would suggest that you let him know that you love him and are going to give him the time he needs to be able to cool off enough to TALK about things. Lines of communication are always crossed when even one party is too heated to really listen. When the time comes where you two are able to talk rationally, be guarded in what is said. Don't speak with accusing words like "you did" or "you said" or "you made me feel this/that way". Try something more along the lines of "when this/that happened it made me feel..." You would be surprised at how clearly partners hear things when how we are aware of how we are speaking to them. Good luck.

Answer 2

You sure it's been a rough "month". Cause when it's really coming, you can sense it long back. If you think the guy really loves you and you know or have this intuition that this relationship is for keeps, why don't you talk it out with him? You don't have to move in with him immediately. Maybe that'd be a better option, once things are sorted out. But, I'd say compromise is the key. If at the end of all of your fights, the guy expects you to compromise all the way, then it's probably time for you to call it quits. All the best!

Answer 3

Sorry, 'bout what happened.

Instead of trying to talk so much, just be there. Everyone goes through points in their relationships where we have to mature a little while sacrificing that magic which makes us feel like we're perfect for whomever we're with. You guys may have gotten seriously upset with each other, but relationship stress is best cured by doing something mindless that gives you two a sense of accomplishment with "togetherness".

Do some chores together [this is why old people have gardens, so they don't wear themselves out having sex; jk ;) ]. Go for a walk and get some ice cream. Watch a movie, but don't ask any questions so you can purely enjoy it.

AFTER you 2 are settled, then you can try to organize your plans and thoughts for the future. But, you have to get COMFORABLE around each other FIRST.

Best of Luck!

Answer 4

When you fight constantly in a relationship it is not healthy for either partner. While he's still upset and you stll have a little bit of dignity left for yourself and guys you shoul move on. There's plenty of guys in the world girl. Love don't make you crazy and I pretty sure that it sounds like you're too in love to leave him. But trust me. Go out on a couple of days without him knowing, it isn't considered cheating if you guys don't go as far as touching below the waist. Have a great time!

Answer 5

iam sorry to hear that you guys are not getting along well. remember every relationship has it ups and its downs and this is no different. you said you and your boyfriend are going through some serious problems i just wanted to know what those problems are so that i can give you some advice your going to have to give me more information about that for me to help you there. as for proving anything to him i dont think you should be the one to do that if he loves you like you say he does then there shouldnt be anything to prove to anyone especially him you should feel like you have to apoloize for something because of the way you feel i want you to think long and hard about that before moving forward with this person. maybe taking some time apart from this relationship is something the two of you need right now

Answer 6

make him understand frustrations, and why you feel so strongly about your arguments. There are reason for fighting, to me fighting is heatly at times, just remeber life is hard and some things can be blown out of portion make sure when you throw words around you use them wisely, becuase if not they can hurt other people. Try starting over with him, set some ground rules, is it nortmal for one to yell and scream hell ya, but pick and choose your battles, let the little stuff go, make sure if you wanna be heard that you look him right in the eye and let him know whats on your mind, you can do whatever you want, but arguing is healty just remeber dont sweat the small stuff GOOD LUC K

Answer 7

Just tell him that you're sorry and tell him how you see part of it was your fault. Give him some time to cool off too, you know? It may take him awhile to just chill. If he still doesn't cool off in a few days ask him what's wrong and maybe he will open up to you and say why he is mad.

Answer 8

go out to dinner. call him, and if he doesn't pick up leave him a message. the message should say that you are so sorry for the fight, and that you would like to go out to dinner with him. i know what you are thinking guys should ask girls out. but be courageous and just ask him out too. tell him where to meet you and what time. he probrably would come because if he blows you off and never calls you and tells you why, he is so not the man for you.

Answer 9

I do not trust the longevity of any relationship that is bumpy and dotted with fights. You are trying to hang to something that will hurt you in the process. Cool off and if necessary, let it go.

Answer 10

Don't be a weinie! You're going to guilt yourself into a real corner missy. If you were p*ssed allow yourself to be p*ssed... you don't need to justify anything... if anything perhaps he needs to justify himself to you. I'd just chill for a few days... see what he does... if he makes no movement toward you to resolve this... dump his a** and move on... you deserve better.