I started dating a woman in 2002, I was just out of high school and she was a junior.... we dated and had a strong, healthy relationship. We communicated everything with eachother, we spent time with eachother, I cant recal seeing a better fuctioning realtionship EVER.
She went to Collage in Tucson and I stayed in Phoenix and worked for her brother. It worked for a while, but I she is starting to see other men.
I am 100% positive that I love her and she at least loved me with all her heart. I was always great to her and she was always great to me. So it's hard for me to understand why she wants to find another man, cuz I know I didn't really do anything wrong.
I want her back and I don't know what I am supposed to do.
Is there any hope for our relationship? What should I do if I want her love back? Does she still love me, and she just wants to spread her wings? I just want to make sense of everything thats going on and do what I need to do
2006-06-17 05:43:57 · 12 answers · asked by tybardy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should be "logistically" close. Then take it from there. She may still love you. Maybe she got lonely and needed companionship, but still loves you too. If you communicated that well, once you are with her face to face, it should come easily and soon you will know how she feels and where you stand. Get your butt to Tuscan and see her. Love like that doesn't come along every day. It would be awful to let it slip through your fingers without a second chance.
2006-06-17 05:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough being that far apart from each other when you love one another with all of your heart and soul. Any relationship can be put under a strain and test during these times. If you trust each other and communicate with one another, it might work out for the best. Talk to each other, ask how your day went, and talk about anything you want. If you'd like you can even go and see each other when you have a vacation (i.e.: Summer Time) that way you can spend some time together again.
She's not seeing anyone, but she is missing you just as much as you miss her, if not even more :) Living all by yourself in another place and going to College (work and school) can really take a toll on anyone. Help out each other by being trustworthy, patient and honest with one another, that way you can always be able to talk about anything at all :)
Good luck and take care :)
2006-06-17 12:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by tiger_pisces7483 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You screwed it up. You stopped acting like a man and she lost attraction for you. Also, you are completely misinterpreting the relationship from her point of view. You see her as a serious love interest. She sees you as that random guy she was ******* before she got her life together. This is harsh, but you need to face it and learn from your mistakes.
You also need to have sex with a number of different women so that you can gain perspective on them. Only a handful of women are appropriate for a long term monogamous relationship. That is the bottom line. Only a small percentage of those are marriage material. Everyone else is only for sex. NEVER forget this and never make your decisions with regard to women without that in the front of your mind. And don't ever consider getting married unless you have put the time and effort in to make sure you have one that can hold up her end in a marriage (because 99% of them can't or simply won't).
2006-06-17 12:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship has been good on both sides, then she prolly just wants to see what's out there. Let her know your intentions and how much you love her. But don't be forceful. If she does leave, hopefully she'll realize what she has in you and come back soon... if not, then you'll have to move on, buddy. Good luck.
2006-06-17 12:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by beloved_mag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. But if you were her first serious b'friend, then she may well just want to see what the other fish are like in the sea. Once she gets bored of this, if she really loves you, she'll come back.
2006-06-17 12:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jimbo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't make someone else love you. The best you can hope for is that after seeing other dudes, she'll realize that what you had was special and come back. Otherwise, it's out of your hands.
2006-06-17 12:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny ♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously man move on
sometime down the line u will laff at how u would pine for her
women are like that
if they have to they WILL come back otherwise there is nothing u can do to get her back
they will only when they want to
stay in touch with her
constantly
if u love her ,,,then try to see her happy
2006-06-17 12:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by ama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would try the "if you love something, set it free" thing
because if she loves you, she will come back
i am sure she wants to explore every option before settling down...."sewing wild oats"
if you don't do these things while you are young, you will do them when you are old and end up doing something crazy, like following willie nelson around...or, even worse, spend your teenage kid's college money on a convertible and be one of those old fart's with a shiny bald head cruising the strip and picking up hookers!
good luck!
2006-06-17 12:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she really would like to spread her wings, and see what she would like in others and this might help her find out that you are more valuable and return her love back to you
2006-06-17 12:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by septima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u better meet her and look at her eyes and ask her to tell u honestly that she loves u or not,and just try to ask her the reasons,only she knows why she is doing this
2006-06-17 12:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by sara s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋