this guy I work with is really confusing me i asked this question over and over but i need more advice.....my and this guy both work in the same area but different jobs he is a drill instructor and i work in a store where his recruits shop for soap toothbrushes ...etc i really don't pay attention to the drill instructors until i noticed him he was with his recruits in the store that i work in and i caught him looking at me that day i didn't say nothing but i noticed how handsome he is a few days later he keeps passing by the store looking in there he didn't come in but kept passing by so i went near the door and then he stops asks me a question and asking me to help him in the store .the next day he marching with his recriuts and when they pass by he's looking again and when he saw me looking he quickly turns his face....i don't know what this means and it's driving me CRAZY..it's really busy there so time with him is hard to have a conversation what should i do?
2006-06-17 05:25:00 · 14 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at my job the females there say that alll drill instructors are married but this guy has no ring on his finger and he looks really young i'm 21 and he looks my age i'm not sure if the ladies are lying because i know about three drill instructors who are not married the ladies who told me this flirt with all of them so i'm confused with that too
2006-06-17 05:34:21 · update #1
just tallk to him, you have to be confdent!!! be you. if he isn't married, then things will work out, sometimes guys are shyer then girls and you will have to make the first move. It seems to me that he is interested in you, and the other girls are jealous, i've been there b4, so i know how it feels.Everything happens for a reason, good or bad, so just spark up a conversation about how his day is going or whatever, and ask if he would like to go out some time, you have nothing to loose, and if he says no, there are still a million more guys there, right.
2006-06-17 05:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by vidalliendo21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he has a crush on you....you should offer him a cold beverage like an iced tea or something. you pay for it, just say it looks hot out there and that you thought he may like something refreshing.....if he isn't to shy he may ask to repay you and if he does you can say something like, oh that's okay, hey maybe we can go have a soda at the local soda joint or pub.(what ever you have close by, even the chow hall) ask him if he shoots pool, basketball, anything. he will certainly have some kind of reply that will give you more clues. and if you know who is in his squad you can ask if he's single and hint that you like him. if he gets the word he should take the next step. be patient and keep on doing what you're doing....you could also make some homemade cookies and keep them stashed under the counter and offer them him when he comes in...could be hard to do if it's not a regular schedule buy you can figure out a way. then he'll get the message for sure! he's a lucky guy!!!
2006-06-17 05:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very important to find out if he's involved or married. His recruits shop there, ask one about their seargent. Is he married? Try this...
"Your drill seargent is Seargent ........., right?
Recruit says: Yes maam.
"Do you know if he's married, or seeing anyone?"
Recruit says: No maam, he's single. or (Yes, maam, wife and three kids).
"Thank you, let me buy your shaving cream (toothbrush, soap, whatever)."
If he's not married or involved, make up an invitation, like you were having a small party, only invite him on a five minute tour of the PX, or five minutes of delightful conversation, his choice. If he accepts, you'll have broken the ice and the rest should be easy.
Good Luck
2006-06-17 05:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys will pay attention to a woman who is paying attention to them. I noticed that you did not mention if he is married or not..check that out first. If not engage him with small talk, ask him about his job ask him about where he has been stationed, just get the ball rolling. If you make a connection ask him to come back when you are not so busy, he will find time if he is interested.
2006-06-17 05:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by mpdefender@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forget about your bashfulness and approach him; however, don't be too assertive. Next time you see him and if time allows ask him for his name; and if he does the same try to keep the conversation interesting for a little longer than a minute and ask him about his job and if you feel bold enough go ahead and ask him for his phone number that is if he doesn't ask you first(make sure he is single!!!). It appears to me that he is interested in you as well but doesn't know how to approach you either.
2006-06-17 05:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the few minutes that you do get to talk to him and just kind of get to know him. I only say this b/c you said you are shy. If you weren't shy, I would just tell you to ask him out for coffee or something small. Just keep playing the game and at some point you will win.
2006-06-17 05:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by lojack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitley interested but wants you to make the first move.
Hang on for a while, wait for him to make the first move. If it goes on for too long then just give up and start talking to him in a friendly manner and hopefully things hit off from there...
:)
Good luck girl!
2006-06-17 05:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Puja N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know classic line but just be yourself, and try not to be too shy. I mean in this case it kinda seems like the guy is shy himself. So maybe just causually bump into and start talking to him....hopefully things go well from there!! Good luck!
2006-06-17 05:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sweeeeet story! If he likes you, he will court you. It sounds like he has already begun. You dont have to do anything but smile sweet and keep yourself available, you are a lady! Be your cute self ;)
2006-06-17 05:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make casual conversation about something you did last weekend....slowly start to work up to what you MIGHT do this weekend and then let nature take it's course!
2006-06-17 05:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Pimp_Slapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋