Is it wrong to say that to my children??
2006-06-17 05:07:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Genealogy
FYI: this was a joke you idiots.
I don't even have children.
2006-06-18 02:59:03 · update #1
maybe you have found one of those things that just ain't funny
2006-06-18 06:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by aliantha2004 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Yes, you drink because you have a serious problem--if you feel you cannot stop--if you feel that you need a drink--Alocholic Anonymous is a great supportive organization!! They will tell you that anything becomes a reason for an alcoholic to drink. If you go to AA you will get support and understanding from them. They will not judge you, so please, if you do have a problem--go! It cannot hurt, at least give them a chance. You would be a great Daddy!
Saying this to your children can only cause them to feel guilty and if you don't get help what do you think they are going to do when they grow up? They are going to have that behavior ground into their psyche. They will learn to drink their problems away and then to blame it on the nearest person. Also, children cry--that is what they do, please don't make them feel guilty for it.
2006-06-17 12:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, just the fact that you felt you needed to ask that causes concern.
yes, of course that is a wrong thing to say, whether it be to a child or an adult. "Daddy" drinks because he has a problem. the problem is not the children. if he started drinking this heavy after the children where born, perhaps he has a problem showing strong emotion, the good type of emotion, not the crap. I only hope that he resolves this before you or he scar your children even more.
2006-06-17 13:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by StillKickin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes, Yes, children think that bad things happen because of something they did. That´s cruel. Alcoholism is a problem that no only affects the drinker but the entire family as well. Go to an AA meeting, folow the 12 points program, Alcohol is a drug and alcoholism means dependency on that drug. Your kids are not to blame in any way for the way adults act or the things they do. We are the grownups, kids look up to us for help, love, guidance, by telling your children that their dad drinks because of them is transferring the blame to them when daddy is the only one to blame for his drinking problem. Usually alcoholics are the last ones to accept they have a drinking problem. Don´t make it any harder on the kids or yourself. It´s not your fault or the kids'. Get help, go with the family to the AA ask for guidance and then try go get daddy to accept he has a problem and to seek help as well. I grew up with an alcoholic mother who never accepted she had a problem, as a result we were badly hurt as children, not physically but psychologically, I don´t drink or smoke, its banned from my home and even though my husband does smoke and drink every once in a while I put my foot down and established that our kids must never see him drink or smoke at all. I still don´t know if this will help but I'm at least trying. GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
2006-06-17 12:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Karan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you are mentally abusing your children. You are bestowing unnecessary guilt on your kids that they truly don't need. They need a happy and healthy environment in which to grow and excel. Give them the foundation necessary to be successful and happy adults. As for daddy, he needs to get help and fast! Keep your kids away from that unsafe environment as he may soon start hitting them because they cry when daddy comes home drunk. Why do you think they cry? I believe it's because they are scared.
2006-06-17 12:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children remember negative statements like this all their lives and end up being alcholics, co-dependents, drug abusers, child abusers, suicidal, depressed, murderers on death row or any other negative situations not mentioned because the self-esteem is so torn apart by comments like these. A person who says things like this to a child is not putting the child's welfare first. If you have low self-esteem also and this is why you say these things, you can go to AAA meetings for free and meet other people whose partners drink to get support. I do not say any of this to judge you. I speak from experience.
2006-06-17 18:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by kriend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Dr. Phil would say, placing a guilt trip on your children is never right. I don't know what the consequences of your actions will be, but have you ever heard of Columbine?
2006-06-17 12:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you will make your children think their fathers drinking problem is their fault, you can scar them for life with statements like that.
2006-06-17 12:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! You need to ask yourself why daddy drinks? Don't blame what he may be dealing with on your children's shoulders.
2006-06-17 13:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. They will think it is their fault & grow up with a sense of guilt.
2006-06-17 12:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by Darma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about you cry because daddy drinks...that makes sense.
2006-06-17 23:17:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋