2006-06-17 04:57:41 · 8 answers · asked by rlbteck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is an old saying - "Two wrongs don't make a right". If you're still "hung up" on her infidelity, then I suggest counseling for the both of you. If you're still bothered by it after the counseling, then maybe divorce is the only option left. But that's a last resort - IMO. After all, you loved her enough to marry her in the first place and to stay married in spite of her affair.
2006-06-17 05:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been married for thirteen years, I am assuming you are some form of an adult... That being said.. Be a MAN and know if you are going to cheat on your wife, it's because you are making a CHOICE, just like she did two years ago. You are too old for the "devil made me do it routine" don't you think? I am not saying there may not be some kind of extenuating circumstance and I am not talking about right and wrong. I am talking about accepting responsability of what you are CHOOSING to do because no one can MAKE you do anything you aren't already, somehow, some way, willing and wanting to do....
It may sound like I am angry and I am but not for the reason some may think. Questions like this get me because what is really being asked for is permission, Looking for the validation that says "it's OK, you have every reason to, she deserves it, blah, blah, blah" and there are going to plenty who are going to give you the go ahead. Since that is what you need people to say for you to go on ahead with your "whatever" I am sure you are going to enjoy your "excursion" with a clear heart and mind because a bunch of people you don't even KNOW will tell you it's OK....
2006-06-17 05:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Using a reason such as "she did it" won't solve the basic problem. There is something wrong with your relationship. You should both go to therapy and try to work it out. Remember there was a good reason when you got married. Sometimes you just need to find it again. And if after therapy you still decide you want to be with someone else then you at least tried to resolve the issues and are probably a better person for it.
2006-06-17 05:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by darldm1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's never a valid reason to cheat. The fact that you are even considering cheating on her shows that you don't love her enough to be monogamous. If you can't be faithful then at least be truthful and get a divorce.
2006-06-17 05:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheat on her, then maybe she will turn the tables on you and divorce you and wipe you out...if you're thinking of cheating and you want to so bad...i would take the opportunity to get out of the relationship...with your dignity and self respect intact...also she wont have a leg to stand on in the divorce.
2006-06-17 05:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by curiousbutshy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre just looking for an excuse. If you stayed with her, then you forgave her, didnt you? Do you want to hurt her as much as you were hurt when it happened to you? You know first hand how it feels. Do you want to hurt someone you love that much?
2006-06-17 05:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jimbo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do what she did it's not gonna make it even maybe you should get seperated.
2006-06-17 05:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-06-17 04:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋