Curfew for a 19 year old guy???

Question

Im 19 years old now. Its kinda weird that a 19 year old guy has a curfew at 12am. I always do what they want me to do and i'm trying my best to fulfill what they want but i just feel so frustrated sometimes. I even feel embarassed to tell my friends that a 19 year old guy has a curfew. I feel that it is not rational at all. Please, what do i have to do to get freedom.

By the way im still living with them cause i'm still studying and can't afford to have own living. They do trust me due to my excellent result for this semester.

Answer 1

Get a job. Go to college. Move out on your own. If you are living under their roof, you follow their rules!

Answer 2

If you live under their roof you are obliged to abide by the rules. If you want to do things on your own time find a job and move out. Is the 12:00 curfew something that was earned from your earlier days? Did you stay out all night making them worry? What do you feel is an approprite curfew? 12:00 is pretty late. What good could you be up to at 2:30?

Answer 3

Ask for special permission to participate a single time in some activity that will keep you out after 12. Make it something innocuous, like a midnight movie or a late night bowling party. (Check your local newspaper for ideas.) Be on your best behavior for this occasion to prove that "you won't turn into a pumpkin" or some other undesirable result.

Then lay low for a couple months before you ask again. Don't even bring it up, just meet your curfew without complaint. Gradually work them around to more frequent curfew relaxations.

Answer 4

Talk to your parents/ authority figures, and make them understand that you are not a kid anymore, but an adult responsable for his own fate and actions.
In exchange, you can always show them how responsable you are. Get a job, help them with their income and housework, etc.

If your parents don't want to acknowledge the fact that you are already a grown up, and you don't want to play by their rules, then I'm afraid you'll just have to move out of their house. But that implies the responsability of buying your own food, paying your rent, etc. Make sure you are ready for doing those things if you want absolute freedom, for with freedom comes responsability.

In any case, you have to make them understand that you are old and mature enough to live your own life. Prove how mature you are by taking more responsabilities, and if the "house rules" still don't change, then you'll just have to move alone.
Still, don't be angry with them. A curfew is a sign that they worry and care about you.

Answer 5

U don`t say what gave rise 2 your current imprisonment – mebbe u swore, ran up a big phone bill or got caught visiting porny web sites. Whatever it was u shud know better `cos parents are sensitive to these things, they know they can lead to big problems later in life. I got things wrong when I was at home and I regret it now – u always do even tho u try 2 hide it later. Whatever rules u r under work within them with good humor, the sooner u do, the sooner it gets better so u can concentrate on college and a good job. Don`t louse up ur future by short term arguments with parents – life is a lot tougher out there and the world aint ur friend. There is a lot of good counsel in the Bible, read with an open mind – Johns gospel and Proverbs is a good start – anyone who says otherwise is wrong, trust me. Try to stay gud with your parents - they can be a big help later if you get it right, I know cos mine were and I miss them now - honest. Benny

Answer 6

It's not that abnormal. I'm a 20 yr old college graduate. I still live with my parents... because they have a big house and that saves me rent money. Sure, sometimes I'd like to spend the night out with my friends/bf... but I still live with them and I have to be responsible and show them the respect they deserve. It's not always easy... I often feel the pinch too. But just keep "trying your best." This is a time of your life. You'll never be able to live with your family again like this... enjoy the memories. There's no need to hurry out in flames.

Answer 7

They are your parents and they are only trying to do what's best for you while you are living under their roof, it's an evil world out there & bad things do happen to 19 year old guys too, if you think about it they are only helping to preserve your life a little bit longer. I know it sucks but wait till you have children of your own then you'll see what it's like when they start going out, It's scarey for parents if something bad happened to you they would never forgive themselves.

Answer 8

Hmmmmmmm that's kinda weird. Do your parents trust you, do they have a reason NOT to trust you? Or it is that they're just overprotective of you?

Have you tried sitting them down & talking to them about it? Hey, it's worth a shot.

I have twin boys that are 18, and they pretty much have no curfew, but they give me the respect of knowing what's going on. They don't do drugs, they don't drink and drive. I trust them, therefore they have freedom.

Good luck honey, Marilyn

Answer 9

Please tell me what your reasoning is in being out past twelve.
Nothing ever good comes past midnight. All people should be home then. You don't have to tell your friends anything. Just say you want to be home. People who stay out that late are usually at parties or the bar. How is that helping you become the best person that you can be...........how is it helping you accomplish goals? You should be home whether you are an adult living with your parents or an adult living at your home.

Answer 10

Guess you are still living at home? Your folks do not want to stay up past midnight waiting for you to come home. Nothing you can do about it until you are old enough and can afford to move out.