My boyfriend is on his way and i need advice. We love each other dearly and our one year anniversary is thursday. But I have been working the night shift and he works the day. I schedules conflict and we went from talking all day everyday to once for maybe 10 minutes. That really hurts me because the type of girl I am I need lots of attention. I am not insecure or anything it is just that I am drop dead gorgeous and men give me attention all day everyday and if my boyfriend is the main one giving me the attention, then I will pay the other men no mind. He says that he wants to try to find a way to make it work and I know for a fact cheating is not an issue but i am afraid we will grow apart and end up eventually not together. What do I do? He is the one saying that he definately wants to try but I am teh only one trying. I might get in at 1:00am and call him and he will answer and say that he i sleep (which i already knew because it is 1 am) but then I wake myself up at 6:00am to talk
2006-06-17 04:46:28 · 17 answers · asked by kiki_t 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a long distance relationship for more than two years - we lived an hour apart - & at first we talked all day too & were together whenever we could be - but the last 9 months or so he stopped callin - it tapered off to once a day, then only once a week & we didn't spend so much time together - well, he ended the relationship a month ago with no explanation, just an e-mail.
So it sounds like even tho ya'll love each other, you are starting to drift as we did - it happens & it's hard to keep it from going south unless one of you can change to spend more time together. I was the only one making the effort there, too, for a long time - I drove to see him, never the other way around. I don't know - you may have to let this one go & move along. It bites, I know. Good luck.
2006-06-17 04:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you really need some time off and so does he because
(1) the way you described your problem it sounded very much like you were at the end of your rope and in Peril.
(2)your schedual and his are really messed up
You really need to get away from everything or just get together and forget everything else for that one day
and if everything works then from there the both of you can figure out a way to help each other and fix the problem
I feel that you may lose him if you don't do something so just do whatever it takes to please him and you guys will be just fine
2006-06-17 05:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by average teenage dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he's on his way over, so he's trying to see you today! Seriously, If your schedules conflict, and nothing will change with the work schedules. you 3rd and him 1st shift, then you have to really ask yourself if it's worth it to continue. Because, if you are always going to feel bad about not seeing him, it may be worth it to you to move on. Only you can come up with the answer there.
2006-06-17 04:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know he needs to carry his weight. If you love each other and it's been that long you CANNOT give up on it. Make him know you need attention and make him know you need him to try too. You never know... maybe the jobs are temporary.
2006-06-17 04:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible for one of you to switch shifts? That sounds like the only true solution. You need to be able to see each other, and not be exhausted.
2006-06-17 04:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't worry about it that much, if you are going on your one year anniversary than something must be right. And you could always think of the possabilites of switching shifts so you could be with more. And rember absence makes the heart grow fonder!!!! Good luck to you!!
2006-06-17 04:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by mchase_286 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you, it will turn out okay if there is commitment between both of you. Schedules change and people fiind ways to compensate, the schedules may change around again and it will be okay.
2006-06-17 04:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by aloha_lea413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to add your too pretty and men give you alot of attention then you dont need to be with anyone and just get over yourself and let him go he is too much man for you
2006-06-17 04:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by crow_rez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tooooooooooo late
bye
2006-06-17 07:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by arunmvijay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both cannot possibly be working 24/7 - take one day a week and make it "your" day - no interruptions- movies / picninc whatever - just you two go out and be with each other! try it.
2006-06-17 04:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by grisgris100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋