My girlfriend and I just broke up after 10 months. It wasnt so much a 'break up' but more of a realization that we're too different of people and she's going one way and me in another. Not too long ago, (Sunday) we got into a fight about how she was pushing me back and I was tired of waiting around for her because of her work-a-holic-ism. I told her how I felt - that I felt pushed aside. The next day, knowing if we talked more about it, it'd only get worse - of course we talked about it again... Soon I was truly hurt and offended when she said the words that I never thought I'd heard from her, "Maybe I shouldn't be in a serious relationship." I flew off the handle and yelled and said some things that I only said out of anger. We met up and we talked, I apologized, she said she forgave me and we went on our way, still the same. Except it wasnt the same. She brooded more on it and we broke up, I didnt even see her so I could try and reconcile with her. Now I'm heart broken. What do I do?
2006-06-17 04:06:13 · 5 answers · asked by myoddthoughtss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did know that she was like that, a work a holic.. But she wasn't working when we starting going out.. She was there for me at every point and I was for her - I was working myself. And it was very hot and heavy for a good five months.. Then it sort of hit a wall... She got really involved in her work and sort of pushed me aside. I thought when it did come to this point, she could comprimise.. because I did for her in a lot of situations. I loved her and accepted a ton of her faults, but I don't know. Maybe you're right, maybe I saw this way differently... And that only makes me that much more sadder.
2006-06-17 04:33:51 · update #1
I presume you went into a relationship with open eyes. You probably knew that she was a work-a-holic, even if you didn't, and found out only later, just try and reverse roles, what would you do, if your g/f tried to get you to stop doing things that you wanted to do? You have your answer.
As to getting her back, go down on your knees and ask for forgiveness, if you need, and if you feel that this is a woman for you, but a word of advise, when you love a person, it must be total, with all the faults (your presumption) that person has.
2006-06-17 04:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Starreply 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hiii
I think u r deeply involved in this relation more than ur girlfriend. It is simply grate to see such a sensitive person. My dear friend ur relation has just started before 10 months, life is too long n u need to give her time n space. It should be balanced on both sides n not on a single. In ur relation, I think u r to concerned more than ur partner. So have patience, n if ur love is true than she would understand by herself. Try to bind her by ur true love in such a way that she could never think of living without u. Even if she is wrong, u say sorry to her so that she may realise n may feel guilty. But dont make it a habit or she may take u for granted. Some times try to avoid her in such a manner that see would feel a gap n start missing u but it should not happen at a very high extent or else she may get frustrated. So best of luck n n hope u will make it.
2006-06-17 11:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Pichi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nOT to dissapoint you but if there are many differences between the two of you it will bring the relation to a halt later on too. If you decide to get back with her.
Words said out of anger are not always meant though.
Maybe give yourselves a break trully and move on. There are many people out there who are kind, patient and who will be more compatible with you.
There is an article on yahoo or msn about what to do after a break up. Look it up. I t had many good suggestions.
But the best suggestion is LISTEN TO YOUR HEART BUT WITH YR BRAIN TURNED ON.
Dont think with your heart right now, analyze how she made you feel. Do you want to feel worse than that ? YOu may if you and her fight all the time. Do you really want that?
2006-06-17 11:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is obvious that she doesn't want to be with you then you need to find things to keep your mind off of her (find a part time job, go out to more clubs, bars etc.). I would limit the amount of communication that th etwo of you have so that you are able to heal and move. If all that the two of you need is space, then it will come to the surface. If you two are meant to be then you will end up back together. I truly feel for you!
Good Luck!!
2006-06-17 11:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Diamonds_4Ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move and and find someone new...
2006-06-17 11:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by oo0_krissy_0oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋