how do you ask out a girl you work with?

Question

how do you ask out a girl you work with? who is a friend and stated you dont date people you work with? but even though she says that there is somthing that tells you to go for and and i think that she may have a soft spot for me some where

Answer 1

Use decent ways to show her how you feel about her.You will never know until you try something out. Love cannot choose , we are the ones who choose who to love.Would she go out with a former colleague ? I wonder ? Try to ask her in your own way. She doesn't fall in love with a work place, but with an individual. As long as you two don't make it an office issue but be very professional. The fact that she says that she wont do it simply means that she is professional. There are married people who work together, and so many Doctors married to nurses. how did it happen? Go 4 it broer. Good luck

Answer 2

When she said "you don't date people you work with" she either

1) knows you have feelings for her and was pre-empting your asking her out to avoid your embarassment
or
2) she wanted the bring up the subject of dating because she is interested but framed it in a negative way because she wanted to minimise her potential embarassment

No-one on this site can help. You need to guage from your interactions how interested she is, so ask yourself
1) who initiates most of your conversations?

2) who ends most of the conversations?

3) how willing is she to talk about non work related topics?

4) if you move slightly into her space does she back away?

5) comparing her interaction with you and other colleagues is she more or less friendly, does she laugh more or less often

Only ask her out if you think you've more than a 505 chance of a yes. And never do flowers, chocolates, letters, presents etc before a date. Otherwise you appear needy

Answer 3

It's dodgy territory, some workplaces don't allow it. At a work night out, maybe after a few drinks joke with the girl about you two being more than friends and if something happens then fair enough. Bear in mind if it doesn't work you could be in for an awkward time at work

Answer 4

Tell her it is not a date, just a meeting. I prefer to date people from work. You get to know them before you go out with them and it is better than going to bars or letting your friends fix you up. Try telling her about this answer that you got from yahoo answers. Who wouldn't want to go out with someone from work that they allready like and know has a job, another plus. Give it a try and good luck.

Answer 5

Invite her to lunch or coffee after work. It's easier to go a little slow at work if you don't have experience dating a coworker. In time, you will find it's easier. Also, about inviting her to lunch, just be blunt, "Hey 'input name here', what are you doing for lunch? I was thinking of going to Ling Ling's House of Persimmons, you want to join me?" Pretty simple.

Answer 6

Don't do it unless one of you quits and starts working somewhere else first. Never a good idea to date in the workplace!

Answer 7

Ask her for advice...

" I really like this girl at work and I know dating someone I work with is not ideal BUT do you think I should change work to pursue my intentions? "

Its worth a shot!

Answer 8

its really not advisable to date a co-worker since the risks are too high and that if somethings go wrong or dont work out, it greatly affects the work negatively... but if you wanna risk it, you should take it slow, dont leave the striking distance area and be patient...
innitiate rapport...

Answer 9

Have a happy hour with some of the people you work with and invite her.

Just remember, if it doesn't work out you are going to have to deal with the awkwardness of working with her.

Answer 10

Having done this in several workplaces, it is safe to say that it's a bad idea.
The usual way is to invite the lady to breakfast.