I am a 1st time mom of an 11 month old. Finances would have to be mixed around a bit but its ok. I have been working since i was 17 and now I am 37. Would I really miss the work environment a whole lot? I have a good paying job but don't really look forward to getting up everyday to go there. My husband has already told me that I do have the option. Right now, all I see are the pro's. I need the con's.
2006-06-17 03:02:10 · 8 answers · asked by Huni B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my wife is going through that right now!
she gets a little feeling of confinement and not having her own money(as she says). like you she has worked ever since she was old enough a very responsible person and high wage earner, executive actually. now she is totally a stay at home mom and we are living paycheck to paycheck....financially it's hard but if you have daycare there is little advantage. you only have a few precious years to spend with your child before they are gone off to school and you will never get those times back. you are doing something that is WAY more important than yourself....you are helping mold a new person to go forward into the world, give yourself credit for that...it really is a worthy endeavor and you can always go back to work when the child is in school full time.
try doing something on-line from home while the baby sleeps if you can.
Best Wishes, Have Fun:)))
Stu
2006-06-17 03:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do not loose contact with the employment world. perhaps the best thing to do is go to a part time position. At least that way you keep up on the changing times and get out of the humdrum everyday life at home. When you are outside the home you pick up useful information and a wealth of things to discuss with the hubbie. Getting into the same routine everyday with the baby will change in a few years and then you will realize how out of place you feel. The old days left mothers stay at home and talk with other mothers but in today's world most mothers hold down some kind of job and are kept busy running kids around so the communication links are gone. Staying at home takes away your competitive spirit because you have no need to compete. You loose the edge that enabled you to have the success that has come your way. Let the grandparents be more involved in the child's life and everyone will be more fulfilled.
2006-06-17 04:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't think of any cons other than if you're looking at a long term leave from the work force, returning could be difficult if you've not kept up with any type of work activity.
I'm also a first time mom (although I have two step children they're only here part time) but I have the luxury of working from home so for me it's a little hard seeing any cons at all.
Sorry I can't be of more help.
2006-06-17 05:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cons include falling behind in your career. Make sure you keep up on new skills in whatever field you work in.
You'll have less money to do the fun stuff. How much of an impact this has depends on your husband's income and how good you are at being frugal.
You will miss adult interaction. Even though you theoretically have all day to get out and meet with other adults, you generally will not. After all, all your friends probably have to work.
2006-06-17 07:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Home with the Kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
As a stay at home mom myself, I can tell you that the thing I miss most is grown up, non-giberish conversation. I find at the end of the day, the first adult conversation tends to be very very long! The other thing is some ppl's attitude, all superior cause they work and can still "manage" their family. Or the attitude that all you do is lay around all day and do nothing!!! As if!!!
Other than that, like you, all I see are pros.
Good luck!
Karen
2006-06-17 03:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by karenanne86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with deciding to stay back at home, However when your kid becomes a bit big maybe around 10 years or so and you think the child can manage by themselve, you do have the option of getting back to work to avoid feeling bad or depressed or left out at home. From my view point there is no con in staying back at home. so sit back and enjoy your childs growth.
2006-06-17 03:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by its_anoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a stay at home Mom, is ok, if you do not want an adult social life, or want your child to cling to you. I believe that if the parents work out of the house, than the child in going to some sort of daycare, develops social and independent skills. I had the option of staying home with my children, and I opted to work. My kids have turned out smart, independent and have social skills, I myself wish I had.
2006-06-17 03:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by mettaraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get the theme song to all of the kid shows stuck in your head. but other than that i cant think of one. =0)
2006-06-17 03:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by Suki_Sue_Curly_Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋