2006-06-17 01:43:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men's actions cannot be explained. One can be married to the same person for many years and have the same problem. Personally, I do not believe men know what they want. Perhaps the guy is just bored and is killing time. My own son would go on many dates with a girl, allow her to cook for him, but will be adverse to any long term relationship. In his case, sometimes he is afraid of being hurt. Sometimes, a guy can't make a decision, because his decisions have always been made for him. The possibilities are endless, because all people are motivated by different feelings. If a guy does go out with you, and you do enjoy yourselves, give it a try a bit longer. Perhaps he will change his mind. I believe men change their minds more than women, although they won't admit it.
2006-06-17 01:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by claudia.treacy@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to make a commitment to you because he wants to leave things open in case another woman comes along that he may want to be with more. How long have you been dating? If it's less than a year then you are rushing things and he has a right to feel that way. If it's been over a year then he needs to make a decision; otherwise he is stringing you along and you need to get a new guy and dump this one. Also, have you thought about playing the field yourself and date other guys also. Why not try it and just see what happens. Ask a guy that seems attractive to you (perhaps the cashier at the grocery store, or some service person if they would like to go out and have coffee sometime and give them your business card). See what happens. If the guy your dating isn't ready yet then you also need to be playing the field now also; otherwise you are limiting yourself and not keeping your bases covered in case things don't work out with your current guy. Also, it may make him jump up and start making some decisions about what he want to do.
2006-06-17 08:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be several reasons. He could possibly enjoy his independence and not want to be restricted to a relationship.
Or perhaps deep down inside he feels that you're not exactly what he's looking for and he's leaving the door of opportunity open. Maybe you should ask him what his future plans are.
Ask what he looks for in a long term relationship and where you fit in. If that doesn't scare him off, you may have to reconsider the slow boat you're on.
2006-06-17 08:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably lonely, and wants some company...to talk to, and discuss things with.....an adult conversation. I say, continue on with him , as long as he is good company. Many relationships have been formed with people "not interested in a relationship". I think he's just "scared" right now, but if you ease his mind, it could become a whole lot more.......Date him, Feed him, and slowly but surely, Love him! Good Luck!
2006-06-17 08:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probly did not think you were his type. beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if there is not that spark between you it was not ment to be. pursue a friendship and nothing more if you still want to talk to him. a person goes on a date to see if that spark is there and said not looking for a relationship right now cause it was not there and did not want to hurt your feelings or lead you on. i actually think that is admirable.
2006-06-17 08:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by ksuccubis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might not be ready to start a relationship might be scared of getting hurt or might just not be ready and needs some time before he is sure what he is doing is right.....
2006-06-17 08:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you, but doesn't like you "in that way" - so either drop him or enjoy the friendship, but make sure it's reciprocal (ie, he invites you for dinner sometimes and that you are not the only one initiating activities).
2006-06-17 08:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to be friends. He could also have commitment issues.
2006-06-17 08:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Darma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he say doesn't want? it might be because he still wants to be your friend for the meantime as he gets to know you better..there are guys who prefers to be friend the girl first before courting her.
2006-06-17 08:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to be friends. Don't look for love , it will find you.
2006-06-17 08:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by david r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋