Why is it that no matter what guys can't take no for an answer i mean in every relationship i've been in the guys eventually asked me for sex but i want to remain pure and i don't beleive in sex before marriage ...why is it that guys want sex but they dont want to commit? is it so hard for the guy to marry me first and then have what he wants from me? and dont get me wrong i'm 23 years old...
2006-06-17 01:25:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good for you!!! Keep it up!
Guys these days don't understand that what no means or that you mean it a lot of the time because the world gives in. . .parents have in the past and most people don't wait till marriage. They assume no means wait. Stick to your guns!
Wish I could meet a guy like 'pathfinder'! Maybe you will.
2006-06-17 01:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were a guy, I would never marry someone and commit my whole life to someone without knowing if we were sexually compatible first BEFORE getting married. Sex is too important a part of a male/female relationship to be 'gambled with'. You can take the high road and say youre oh-so "PURE", but Im sorry, you are really just totally unrealistic in the realm of todays society. And settin yourself up for failure and dissappointment. Im not saying you should go out and go wild, but if you are in a commited relationship and feel love for your partner and have some idea that marriage could be in the future, you shuld not only EXPECT the guy to want sex, you should consider being real. This is not the 19th century, and more than 50% of marriages fail.
2006-06-17 01:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by islalinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the nature of the beast. For more information, you should read some statistics. You're actually in the minority, and their behavior is more average. People like to test all aspects of the relationship before making a commitment. That's the norm. You're behavior is unusual and probably confusing to most men.
My best advice is to tell them upfront, on the first date what the deal is, to avoid any confusion. Forcibly tell guys when you first meet them, that you intend to wait until marriage. And if they have a problem with waiting, then don't waste your time.
2006-06-17 01:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because many of us guys are horny little devils, and lead with something far more south than our brains, usually. A lot of it is hormones, some of it's insecurity, and a lot of it is because we're pressured to "score!" with any attractive women we meet, as if we're supposed to all be James Bond or Casanova.
If your guy truly loves and respects you, then he can commit without going all the way. But I will echo one other person's earlier comment, that having pre-marital sex can determine how compatible you are in the sack --- which can factor in how successful your marriage may be.
2006-06-17 01:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guy CAN take NO for an answer. I for one would NEVER ask a girl for sex, until after amrriage. There are plenty of guys like me out there in the world.
2006-06-17 01:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys hate rejection, and teenage guys (and into their 20s too) seem to think sex is he end-all be-all of all things to do, and it's not that they don't respect you, it's that you telling the no is rejecting THEM...
Anyone who doens't respect your desire to wait until marriage, doesn't respect you. There ARE men out there who will respect your wishes... keep looking..it just takes a little longer to find them.
But hold on...I wanted to wait, too... and my virginity was taken from me,so hold on and be SAFE
2006-06-17 01:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you young lady stick to your guns. Believe me when I say there are guys out there with moral convictions. Maybe you are just not hanging out with the right group of people. I don't mean to offend but try finding maybe a higher caliber of friends who you know have a higher moral standard.
2006-06-17 01:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you expect them to want it? Do you think you'd like a guy that takes no for an answer on something he really wants? And are you MAYBE playing around with them a little too much?
2006-06-17 01:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by eric J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are like that... it just seems that way. My husband wasnt like that at all. Believe it or not there are still some gentlemen out there and when you find Mr Right it'll be a blessing, just be patient. (Yes I know how hard that can be as I'm not all that patient and wasnt while I waited).
Best of Luck & God bless.
2006-06-17 01:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by MissLtoeNBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're scared to have a family of their own. The responsibility of having people to depend on them. They're probably not ready yet and they just want to have some practice before having to commit.
2006-06-17 01:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋