My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.We r thinking of seperating. my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.
2006-06-17 01:24:58 · 17 answers · asked by archer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dear archer , what u have mentioned about ur mom is simple an example of a true woman, a perfect wife n a dedicated n lovingly mother,,and u urself know her better , ur wife has left u alone , give a chance to ur mom to leave u , she might die but wont wish that u will b out of her sight , , , , , ,
cheer up man , just obey her in any case, she wont let u down ever, she destroyed her life for u , now its the time to payback , though no one can payback their parents love n sacrifice but still try to make her happy, coz my religion ISLAM says that heavens r below the mother's feet,,,,,,,,,goodluck boy
my mother died 2 yrs back,,,,,,,, theres no replacement
2006-06-17 01:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by fuad_enjoy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Moms always want what's best for their children. We don't like to see them going through bad times and that upsets us. Yes, the above people are right in that she is responsible for her own happiness, but it is a mom thing to get very upset when something is wrong in our children's lives. I know I do and it upsets my children when I'm upset about what they're doing (they are adults). It's a very fine line we all walk. She loves you and you love her and respect her too. She wants to see you happy and having a good life.
She may not have given her approval to the marriage because she was afraid it would not work out. Marriage takes a lot of work from both people to be successful. She didn't want to see you hurt.
Spend time with her. Respect her. Let her see that you are working on your life to be happy. In little ways show how much you appreciate her.
What she has done for people was done because she felt it was the right thing to do. Be true to yourself but show her you learned from her example. She sounds like a very special lady.
2006-06-17 01:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by kendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Sounds like you're a very caring person, and it sounds like Mom is a strong one. Give her credit for her strength, and tell her how much you care for her. Don't feel sorry for you or her. Sorry doesn't help, but sharing your thoughts and feelings gets things out in the open. The way you're searching for answers with us out here and finding comfort with us can be done with Mom. Break the dam and let her know what's in your heart all these years. Neither of you are responsible for any hurt in your lives, but you are usually the best people to help. It's comforting to have family care so much about you. Good Luck
2006-06-17 01:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by weeziedo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound crazy - and perhaps I am wrong. But it sounds as if your mother has been always concerned with you and your brother, and she wants you to be happy. What would make her happy is for you to truly be happy - seriously. Mothers suffer when thier children suffer - and as much as we want to continue making decisions for them, we have to let go to let you guys make your own mistakes. As far as your wife - what is the purpose of your separation? was it your mother? that certainly isn't going to make her feal good. If it wasn't make sure she knows that.
Other than that - simply let her know how much she means to you - why you appreciate her so much, let her know you would like to do something especially for her that she would love and perhaps that can get you started.
2006-06-17 01:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by melw1206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it, breaking your marriage just for her, what kind of mother is she?
Tell her are you happy now!
she is not going to last a long time with you, but your wife is.
Tell your mother that your wife and you will do the same thing as she has done it for you, by taking good care of your children to grow up with their both parents.
think wisely.
2006-06-17 01:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by dragowolfthelegend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kinda spoke back your own question once you requested it. You suggested....a mom loses her purely baby.....mom is the most word! She remains a mom no remember what! I have one residing baby and a son who replaced into stillborn very last July. at the same time as someone asks me what number little ones I have, I continuously say 2! only because my baby received't be the following in the international does no longer mean he's not my baby and that i'm no longer his mom!
2016-10-31 01:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your brother is a doctor you must br aware of clinical depression.Your Mother depression may not be situational,and the others are on track I am sure if you are happy your Mother will be happy for you.Just be there for your Mother.
2006-06-17 02:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your mother has had a rough life but deep down she just want what;s best for her children. if you really want to make your mom happy than just be happy and grateful that you got a chance to meet some as amazing as your mother. once you find your happiness than you should spend as much time with her,
remember no one last forever. so make every second count
2006-06-17 01:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by sabio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Dear One, it seems to me that you already have. Your mother is a strong lady because of her lifelong struggles, but still, she's tender and she loves her boys.
To please her, I feel you could sit with her and talk. Tell her what a great job she's done to raise you in spite of her trials, and that you so love her and appreciate her for all her sacrifices.
I am a mother of six, and I can empathize with you. Your mother holds on to some bitterness-not YOUR problem, you cannot "fix" her, but simply letting her know how special she's always been in your life WILL please her. Pray that God will ease her heart.
2006-06-17 01:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by garayfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother loves you and wants what's best for you. You obviously love her very much too.
Let her know this: spend time with her, talk with her, tell her how special she is. Let her know that you appreciate her concern but that you are trying to resolve this issue for the best.
2006-06-17 01:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by Darma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋