Why does a girl keep going back to an abuseful, drug addict husband, father of her only child?

Question

My Friend is the girl.

her on parent, her dad, wants her to leave him.

Answer 1

ones psychological rationalities are a strange thing and not always rational. im no doctor but have wittnessed and experienced plenty. shes probably overwhelemed with a multitude of emotions. i mean who doesnt want to stay with the father of their child especially if her parents are divorced. fear of change is usually a big one aside from the fact that people who are in abusive relationships lose their self respect and strength giving them a sense that theyll never do better, cant survive without him, or begin to rationalize that maybe they are to blame and with guilt things just get worse. its not easy to rationalize that you deserve a specific kind of respect and demanding that is ok (its self respect)demand nothing less than what you give. or maybe shes a super sensitive and truly feels that he needs her and cant survive if she leaves. sometimes its easier to let youself be hurt than to hurt someone else. in the end its always easier said than done.

Answer 2

I saw a segment on the Oprah and the Dr. Phil show regarding this very issue.. Apparently the girl has been married to this addicted person for some years. It is hard to break away from an abusive relationship when that is all you have known for some time. It has been just a natural way of life and her brain keeps telling her to go back. Apparently she feels she may deserve this treatment when in fact she does not. You may want to call the police on her husband, go see the police first and explain the situation. Have them talk to her before or after his arrest. Let them show her someone in the morgue. That settled for this abuse and allow them to ask her is that where she wants to end up. She needs a real eye opener on this matter. She may also be afraid to leave him afraid he may kill her. There are so many places she can get help. Start with the police first.

Answer 3

Second that. Get out, go to an abused women's shelter & get a restraining order on the worthless husband. Get an education so that she can get a job & keep her & her child up. Her confidence & self-respect is low to put up with treatment like that & she needs to build that up so she can stand up for herself & make something of herself.

Answer 4

The woman herself experiences the pain,suffering and humility, yet for sake of the child, and also the husband, she still prays and hopes to see the rainbow at the end of her misery.

Answer 5

i think she keeps going back to her husband because she's still in love with him or she cares about her only child too much and she doesn't want to raise him for herself. lots and lots of girl's are doing that because are too scared to take the life in there own hands

Answer 6

this is a complex issue, she needs to go to a support group, in the USA almost every average sized city has a government agency just for this problem.

Answer 7

Because she does not want to fail. She wants to fix the unfixable. She feels she has failed in life. She let one man (probably her father) and their relationship fail. She does not intend to do it again. It is a sick mindframe. Be there for her. She is mixed up.

Answer 8

I wonder the same thing. Sometimes the girl thinks that she can change him, or that he will eventually change. Sometimes they feel trapped. Sometimes she thinks that if she leaves him, then she doesn't really love him. etc etc

Answer 9

because life is a matter of relationships and love,not acheivements, and she wants to keep that relationship and love inspite of what they are to gain them.

Answer 10

You----r friend has low self image does not believe she can do it on her own