what's the best way to avoid sexual temptations between me and my boyfirend?

Question

we're waiting ti'll we get married, both virgins, but getting weak in holding. any advise?

I'm 24 and he's 26....we've been dating for 4 years. He has his own apartment which i think increases the temptations for us.

Answer 1

trust yourself, in your own disisions, teehee

Answer 2

I don't know... two consenting adults and you've held out this long? I must congratulate you on your commitment! you have much more conviction in this than I or many other people have.

My question to you, then, is why are you waiting? really evaluate your goals regarding this and your beliefs. perhaps when you take a good look at why you're doing this you will find some internal motivation for keeping on. I think, if you logically think this through with as little emotional involvement as is possible, you will discover the truth as to what is right for you. Think about it alone (during that time of the month, when libido is low, or during an icy cold shower) and study your feelings on it. Ask your guy to do the same when he has a lull in his urges (it does happen, despite what people think) and once you feel you've thouroughly thought it through, compare notes. Again, I stress the importance of talking this over in a situation that neither of you are going to get turned on by the topic and start going at it without thinking it through all the way. If neither of you can find a compelling reason to continue this, by all means! it is time for you to commit yourself to each other in this way. However, if one or both of you has a very good reason to continue abstinence, listen to that. you can even write it down and post it somewhere you will see it when you are tempted.

I would just like to add that this is a very personal decision, and that nobody can tell you what the right choice is. no matter what anybody says to you at this point, it is ultimately up to you what is right. nobody has the exact same set of values and experiences you have. take all of this into consideration when you decide.

Good luck, and may you and your guy have many happy years together!

Answer 3

1. Do not put yourself in a position where there is a chance for you to slip. Always stay with other people when you are going to be at a house or something. Do not allow yourself to say 'we can trust ourselves to stop'

2. Talk about and set limits. How far can kissing go? What kind of touching is allowed.

3.Find ways to distract yourself when you start to feel the urges.

4. Remind yourself why you want to wait for marriage!

5. This may be slightly inappropriate but there is nothing wrong with you satisfying your own sex drive...but in private away from each other. It will also help you be more relaxed when you do get to that wedding night!

Answer 4

Do not do anything that would and could lead to those temptations...i.e. spending the night, & heavy petting. Also; limit your time 'alone' together and intimate settings which leave you open and vulnerable to temptation. Try group dateing, utilize family gatherings, and church activities in which to spend time together. Most of all; praying together as well as your personal walk with the Lord will assist you greatly. Nothing keeps you better equipped to deal with temptation better than putting on the armor of Christ everyday! God bless you for loving the Father and a sincere desire to follow Him more completely.

Answer 5

First rule, avoid being alone.
Second, staying virgins till you get married should be a principle not only a wish.
If you really love each other, you will wait.
Do not start your married life with a great sin.
Be proud that both of you can have self control.
Think of Allah(God) whenever you feel weakness inside you, HE will give you the strength you need.

Answer 6

Avoid doing anything physical that feels good. I know that's not what you wanted to hear but oh-well.

If your both sure your right for each other, what's the hold up on getting married? If there's any doubt don't get married - don't marry just to have sex... you'll end up divorced, or in a miserable marriage.

Answer 7

Sexual pressure is only what you make of it. If you allow it to consume you, it will win, if you control it regardless of where you are, regardless of the situation you're in, you'll be a better person for it.

As a woman you have the power to say no even when he says yes, and if he at any point tries to force the issue, even being together as long as you have, he needs to go.

Answer 8

Why is holding you back from getting married? You are both adults now. Four years should be enough time to decide whether you are ready. Four years is also a long time to fight temptation. Meanwhile, don't be alone with him.

Answer 9

My wife and I dated for four years and waited the duration. It can be done, it's just difficult.

Just keep yourself out of situations that lead you to sin. Bear in mind also that it's easy to make more out of a situation than needs to be made. I knew a guy who refused to enter his then-fiancee's (now wife's) house until they were married. That's a little much, I think - I doubt they have had sex every time they go inside since they've gotten married.

The most important factor is the two of you need to agree on your limits. But don't deprive yourselves of affection. It's normal to feel aroused when you're with someone you care about and are attracted to. Just be aware of it and remember that the body is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.

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I need to note that it is incorrect for anyone to tell you that "four years is enough time to know". Each couple must move at their own pace, and only they can say when and whether marriage is right for them.

Answer 10

First dont experience to blame because its organic.. for a sturdy existence one must have sexchronic.. yet protecting it on properly of factors will be problematical, untill u get married, you should masturbate, extremely then looking prostitutes or undesirable courting. masturbation is sturdy for the wellbeing, yet dont mixup delusion with actuality.. you should stay away from the flaws which motives the sexchronic.. as an get jointly keep that area clean and funky.. keep you body cool.. coconut water or yogurt helps.. sturdy success!!

Answer 11

Do not stay in a close environment together. Like a house unless they are other people around. Pray everyday. if you fall you break God's law. You can do it. If you come too close to falling take like a month break from each other. it's better to sacrifice than to sin against God, Put God first. If you mess up it could cause a separation.