he loves me but so busy how should i react?

Question

he started a new job this month and hes taking night shift.
he even sometimes needs to work on weekends
i know working in night is so tiring and he really loves me.
but im not happy hes not paying attension to me as much as i want.
i already told him i want his attention and he said he cares about
me and just tired sometimes. and isaid okay...
should i stay petient for i know he loves me? but
my true feeling is im not fully happy hes so busy but
i dont wanna ruin this relationship because of this.

Answer 1

Don't react. There is nothing to react to. Look at the bigger picture. The 5 year picture. What are your goals and dreams? Do you want to achieve those goals with your man? Or do you want to end up ??????? hummmm..... Sometimes you just have to tell him how you feel. If you need attention tell him!! He can't read your mind! If you are afraid to tell him that you need that extra special attention in the bedroom now, what makes you think you can tell him what your kids have done if you have any 10 or more years down the road? Keeping secrets only intensifies the curiosity. Of *What if?* I had someone on the side? Tell him what you want when you want it. Change your schedule to fit his needs. If your relationship is that important to you. Remember, he won't always work this shift. This is just a phase in a relationship. Get through it, or leave... Because chances are if you don't realize this now, you will just be in agony.

Answer 2

If he wasn't a hard working man, would you then post a question about him being a lazy good for nothing bum? If you need a man to give you the attention you desire and you know that he is not able to, then you have 2 choices.....(1) Ask him if things will always be this way where he is not able to take any time to spend with you and (2) His response to that question will let you know if you should remain patient or find a less hard working man.

Answer 3

Yup, that's the real world alright. It all depends on how intense you believe the relationship is and (are you maried?) how committed you are to keeping it together. For example, one extreem would be that you also get a night job and you both are night owls! A job is a commitment. Since we all need to earn to live it can be an unfair question to ask him to reconsider his job unless he is fully capable of getting a day job. If he quits and can't find a day job or better job to suit you he'll blame you, then you'll be in a different, less love oriented, world of hurt (real hurt). So patience ma friend and learn to live with it ... or not.

Answer 4

This is something similar me and my girl was going through,u need his attention and u feel if he doesnt give it to u u are gonna cheat,well just tell him that hes not gonna be there 4 u as much so u two need to just be friends that way u wont have to cheat on him or just work at his job

Answer 5

if you love him too u have to understand.. he has to work, i remember this times when me and my girlfriend always have an argument regarding that "spending time thing". I was working back then in a fast food chain and i'm always on a night shift. i always come home at dawn tired, my girl would sometimes ask for some loving. but i could not give it to her because i'm so damn tired and sleepy. she used to get mad. but i explain to her how hard is my job. and she understand, eversince i have loved her more. and during my day offs, i spend all day and night with her to make up with my negligences.. just try to understand his situation. don't waste your relationship.

Answer 6

Well, as we all know, life is all about you. I don't know if he's really working so much that he can't take time for you, but I do know this. If he really is working hard, he's trying to build a future for himself and possibly you if you are the person he truly loves. Stop thinking about yourself and your needs and think about what he's doing as well. Personally, I think anyone who says they are too busy with work to pay attention to a loved one is full of it myself. If you really love someone, you make the time.

Answer 7

as women we tend to allow men too much control over our happiness. you need to take that happiness back and find another source of happiness. he is probably feeling too much pressure to be everything you need and want . trust me, i lost a wonderful man bc i had the same problem. my best advise find another source of happiness to go with your life. not cheating or nothing like that maybe god or church or a pet or volunteering for a homeless shelter or something. you are giving him all the power over your happiness and chances are he is scared that he wont be able to live up to your standards. too much pressure can make things really bad for your relationship

Answer 8

look dear u should understand his cond........poor chap he has to work all through the night.stay patient and if u know ge really lovs u than all the tensions gone RIGHT ok so all the best wish u both a happy relationship and wish u people understand each other.

Answer 9

GO AHEAD AND RUIN IT
HE WILL NEVER HAVE TIME FOR YOU
WHO ELSE IS ON THE SCENE!
MY OLD MAN SAID HE CARES TILL I FOUND OUT THE TRUTH.
IF YOU WERE HAPPY YOU WOULD NOT BE WRITING THROUGH THIS CHANNEL
CAUSE YOU WILL ALWAYS BE CURIOUS
WAKE UP!
HOW LONG BEFORE YOU SE THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL!

Answer 10

just understand him...
because people work for success