My daughter is nearlly 2, everytime she dirties her nappy she will tell me to change her.?

Question

do you think now is the right time to potty train her? i have tried but she just screams and crys. she talks alot and also understands everything.

Answer 1

I think you should go ahead and try potty training, just be really positive about it and don't try to force her, or she might get rebellious. Kids are so weird about that whole thing.

Answer 2

What exactly is it that brings on the screaming? Is she afraid of the toilet? Of the bathroom? Does she have a little potty chair?

And think about this from your daughter's veiwpoint. As things are now, she has a body servant at her beck and call. All that oiling and powerdering, followed by a nice fresh diaper is a good feeling. Not to mention all the attention!

Make the diaper change less pleasant. Do the job briskly with as little personal attention as possible. No more fun and games. Don't be mean or angry, but let it show that you are less than delighted with the task.

Reschedule the fun and games for potty time. If your daughter doesn't want to sit on the potty herself, then you two can work together to train her dolls to use the potty. Sing little songs for Dolly and do all the cooing and petting you used to do along with diaper changes. Remember, the "person" sitting on the potty is the center of attention.

And don't be so prompt to respond when your daughter requests a change, even if it means letting her howl a wee bit. There's nothing like a few minutes of chilly wet diapers to impress upon a child the advantages of using the potty.

Answer 3

If she can TELL YOU to change HER, then she is old enough to "change" herself. Yes! NOW is THE time to start potty-training her. She KNOWS she's dirty and she doesn't like it and she want's you to do something about it. Here's an excellent suggestion: Put her FAVORITE dolly or teddy on the toilet and secretly hold a little paper cup with some water in it behind the dolly so she can't see it. Then tell her that "so-nso" (insert dolly's name) is going potty like a BIG girl! And then pour out the contents of the water as if she really is so your daughter sees. Then act like you're all proud of what the dolly did and give her a "treat". Tell your little one that if SHE goes potty like her dolly, she will get a treat too! Of course"treat" doesn't have to be in the form of food....it can be special time together or baking cookies or little cheap toys like from say, 99 cent store. Either way, it worked for me, and a lot of others that I've shared it with in the past, too. Remember, though, once you start trying to potty train her, there is NO GOING BACK! You may want to revert back into putting her into diapers because it's easier or less time consuming, less messy, or you feel like being lazy...but do NOT do it!!! You must cross this bridge together...and guess what? Before you know it you'll be on the other side and worried about some new challenge! Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm sure Gina ford etc would disagree but go with what you feel is right - my daughter would happily poo on the toilet at 2 & a quarter, and hated dirty nappies, then changed her mind and no amount of bribes or threats would get her to the toilet or potty. She knew that Cinderella knickers were the prize for success but even that had no effect - I don't think she was physically ready. She was a week past her 3rd birthday when we tried again seriously, and she was dry day and night within 3 weeks, only occasional accidents. G was a wonderful talker, people often thought she was older (they still do - she's just 3 and people ask what school she's going to in the autumn!), and i think that adds to the competitive mum elements out there making you think you're holding her back. Just bite your tongue when your mum/aunt/friends tell you their babies were dry at 2 weeks old or whatever!

Answer 5

I had a time potty training my eldest, my mistake was using pull-ups, they only confused him because they were too much like his diapers. Also, he would not use a training potty, so I bought the little add a seat that sits on the big potty and that has worked for me with both my kids, neither of them would use the potty chair. Kids are funny when it comes to potty training, some are afraid they won't be the baby anymore, you just need to be pateint and find ways to make a game out of it. Try giving a sticker everytime she goies like a big girl. And just hang in there, some kids take a little time, but she will come around.

Answer 6

you sound like me this time last year! my daughter is just 3 now and i have been trying to potty train her for 12 months and if i took her nappy off she would scream great big sobs and then i would feel guilty and put a clean nappy on her, all everyone could say to me was "she will do it in her own time" i know these words are so frustrating to hear but it really is true because last week my daughter just suddenly weed on the potty without my nagging her, i was shocked she did this given her past attitude towards the potty, but extremely proud of her, so please be patient with her , it is a massive issue at her age and she will do it but in her own time, have you tried pull ups or just putting pants on her, buy a potty for her favourite doll too, or make a stiker chart, and remember don't be too hard on her as she will rebel, i hope this helps, K :o)

Answer 7

You sound like me last year. My then almost-two-year old was also precociously verbal, and understood everything, and was entranced by the potty and miserable in a dirty or wet diaper.

So we tried.

We got a potty. We let her check it out with her clothes still on. We let her sit on it while WE were going potty. We read stories on the potty. We let her flush the big toilet. We let her use the big toilet if she wanted to. We let her pick the design of her Pull-ups.

We gave her tons and tons of praise. We drew a star on the family calendar every time she used the potty. If she got a star every day for a week, we gave her a potty prize. We used stickers to keep her going in between. And there was one month where she used the potty every day, although not perfectly enough to consider her in any way "trained."

And then it became a battle. Not sure why.

So here we are, almost three now, and we're STILL working on it.

Here's hoping your experience goes better! I think she's very conflicted, wanting to be a big girl, but also wanting to stay a baby.

Right now, I console myself thinking that no one goes to college in diapers, and that, eventually, peer pressure will be working in my favor!

Answer 8

I think so she is aware of when she has used the potty.

Take her shopping and let her pick out her first pair of big girl underware and explain that if she uses the potty she doesn't have to wear he diapers. Get a little potty you can stick on the floor. Than take her to pick out a bunch of stickers. Than let her decorate the potty. This way she has a hand in it and it doesn't seem so scary because now it is hers.

Everytime she uses the potty the way she is suppose to give her lots of praise. Also you can use pull ups until she is completely ready

Answer 9

If she screams and crys then it is obviously not the right time. She is obviously aware so try again in a few weeks. Always leave the potty around and leave her without her nappy on for periods now the weather is warmer.
My son was very similar to this yet he would always wee on the potty but took longer for poo's. i just let him do it in his own time.....there is no rush!

Answer 10

Sounds like she just doesn't like the discomfort in her nappy. Girls tend to be more advanced in that department so i would let her run round the house bare with a potty at hand and lots of cleaning products and let her do it one step at a time. I used to sit on another potty with my son so he didn't feel left out, i know you will probably eel a idiot but who cares. Keep asking her when she has her nappy off does she need the potty. if you have time buy a potty and when your in the house with her and she is bare YOU keep going on your potty and pretend to have the toilet she will probably follow suit. Good Luck!xxx

Answer 11

Summer is a good time to potty train, start using pants, or none at all if outside in the garden, have the potty near by, encourage her with treats and lots of praising, when she is using potty more she will forget about the treats, It will take time to get in to a routine, but persist, when ever she is near water expect the worst, don't push to hard make it fun. Good luck.