why do parents hate there children so much?

Question

im 17 and my parents kicked me out and now i am living at my cusins its actually fun i get to drink all i want and he got me a job at his work but it still sucks that my parents just kicked me out

hey my dad hit me so i hit him back

now im living like 70 miles from were i used to live

Answer 1

It sounds like they may have gotten tired of trying to get through to you.

I'm guessing you're probably not the world's best student, get in trouble constantly, don't help out much around the house, etc. etc. If I'm wrong, I'm sorry. It was unfair of them to boot you. But if any of this has a grain of truth to it, then listen up.

Your parents are not required to put up with your sh*t once you're old enough to take care of yourself. Granted, I think they're about a year early, but maybe they just had enough. If you want to make things right, you have to show some responsibility for your actions. I know this is hard to believe, but your parents are just trying to do what's best for you, and teach you things so you can succeed later in life. Drinking and screwing around in school WILL NOT help you later in life! You'd be surprised how many doors will be closed to you later because you didn't do well enough in high school.

I know people my age that were you 10 years ago. They're barely making enough to buy food and pay rent, and pretty much have no future ahead of them. A lot of them had to move back with the parents that kicked them out once upon a time.

Do yourself a favor - listen to your parents. They ARE trying to help.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you are having to deal with reality at such a young age, but the fact is, you're dealing with reality. The world is not a perfect place and neither are the people. I won't ask why they kicked you out, but I'm sure they feel like they had a good reason. Perhaps you have become to much of a challenge for them. Perhaps they feel like you need to grow a little on your own. The important thing is to understand, they probably do not hate you. As a parent, I could never hate my child. Hopefully, one day you too will bring a life into the world, or help a child develope into a mature adult in some way. If you do, I'm certain you're views on parents will change.
Try not to completely severe ties with your parents, because I promise, some day, even though you don;t believe it, someday you and them will forget and forgive and you will discover the love they have for you is stronger than any love you will ever know... until you are a parent...

Answer 3

I don`t believe that they hate you. Maybe you think so because they won`t allow you to do all the things you deem are fun. Most parents only want the besy for their children. maybe they have kicked you out because they are fed up with your BS and just can`t take any more. I mean think about it. I`m sure they didn`t just come home one day and pack your stuff and get out. I bet it took a lot of arguements and or punishments before it got to that stage. It`s rather obvious you have some issues. Why don`t you try putting yourself in their shoes and maybe you will better understand them. Would you want any of your children doing the ignorant things that you are doing? Would you allow your 17 year old to drink? I think you have great parents and you should probably be a bit more caring about the things they have done for you. Bottom line is: THEY LOVE YOU AND ONLY WANT THE BEST FOR YOU!!!!

Answer 4

The thing to remember about this is to not let it carry forward...if you don't like the way your parents treat you then make sure not to treat your own kids the same way...kill the hate now...but my parents kicked me out as well...you want some brutal honesty...it is the best thing they could have done for me...I now have a wife and 3 year old child...a new home...and a nice job...they kind of started me off...I wanted to prove to them that I could do it..and do it better than they did...now don't get me wrong I love my parents and most kids do...but you are at an age that you don't understand them anymore and they don't understand you...so it is a good thing they put you out...now you need to show them you are ready to be an adult...stop the drinking so much and watch what you spend your money on...try to get into a local college...budget your money well and you will show them...i know you don't look at it like this but you have a life to start and you need to do just that...imagine what you want out of life and decide what you are willing to do to get there....good luck...

Answer 5

I must say I don't like all this stereotyping. "Parents never hate their children for no reason! You did something so wrong!!" Honestly the day I was born my dad was abusive mentally and physically. He told me he hated me when I was thirteen and then he punched me right in the face. That was the day I kicked myself out. I had straight A's I didn't do anything wrong and I loved my parents but that was just so wrong and it wouldn't stop there.

If you got kicked out for no reason I can't tell you why... sometimes people just don't realize how much of a handful kids are. Maybe your parents are having underlying problems.... You should try to figure out the reason and attempt to fix it or just give them some time. Just be safe and if you must learn how to survive on your own. You are almost eighteen!!

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Phoenix

Answer 6

Yes it sounds like you are having a blast with your cousin, but you obviously aren't entirely happy with the situation as you are still very concerned that your parents kicked you out of the family home. I can't speak for every parent but I have two teenage sons whom I love unconditionally, however that doesn't mean that I like them all the time....teenagers have the ability to push you to the limit and beyond.
I would give them time to cool down, then I would try finding a way back into the family fold....doesn't mean that you have to go back to living at home. Maybe this is the kickstart that you needed to take life seriously, if that is the case, then prove to yourself that you can do it....don't prove to anyone else, just yourself. Then you can go back to your parents with a positive attitude and they will see that you can handle yourself in the adult world. After all that is the most that any parent can hope for, that they have turned out a child that is able to handle life in an adult and sensible manner. it's your life, just get on and live it, you only have one shot at it....don't waste it:)

Answer 7

You didn't say why you were kicked out. If you are still so immature that the best thing you have going is the ability to drink all you want, well then you probably had some reponsibility issues at home. Have you tried to talk to them since then and work this out? Parents don't usually hate their kids but it can be difficult to love and care for them when they make it so hard sometimes being stupid and careless.

Answer 8

Most parents don't kick you out for no reason. There's usually an underlying cause such as the minor child not abiding by the rules of the home.

I was lucky because my mom put up with all my bullcrap, but trust me, there are days when I want to beat the brakes off my two teens. I either want to run away from home or kick them out. Of course, I love my kids, so I usually spend the night at a friend's.

If your folks are the type to kick ya out for not following their rules, maybe you should've taken that into consideration. Welcome to life....it sux.

Answer 9

parents never hate their children no matter what they do. they dislike and don't agree with your actions and decision but they will never hate you. kicking you out maybe the last resort and by doing this try to make you realize that maybe the real world isn't as easy and fun as what you think. right now your cousin maybe helping you out but unless you get it together your cousin may not put up with your irresponsible ways for very long. drinking does not solve anything and at your age excessive drinking will only create a whole new set of problems. use this time to grow up and do something productive with your life.

Answer 10

If you learn to love them then you will see that they love you. They "kicked" you out maybe to teach you a lesson and that's the last resort because no parents want to send their kids out into the wild world if they are not ready for it yet. I am sure they've tried all measures to no avail to right you. Start righting yourself NOW (stop drinking, get back to school or get a job, save money, stop hanging around with the wrong crowd, etc...) and they will ask you back home.