I am a very young mom and a new 1@ that.I feel that im not a good mom B-cuz i havent changed some of my ways. i love my baby w/ all my heart but shouln't that b enough to make me change?
2006-06-16 20:00:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
face it kids nor parents come with instructions. we do the best that we can with what we've learned from our parents and in life. the best way to be the best parent you can be is to love, respect, listen, and provide the best you can for your child. being a 1st time mom maybe the scariest time in your life right now but remember we all make mistakes just learn from them and love, love, love, you child. good luck!!!!!
2006-06-17 07:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Your ways?" What ways, are you talking about. It's dificult since that is a broad question. But I believe it's not only the emotion that counts but the action that counts. You can be the best mother by shownig compassion for ur baby, not only just the feeling, but praising ur child. I felt that was missing in my life, the "praisal" which i find it difficult to be positive if i do something. Think of it as ur the teacher, and u want to make the kid feel special and let them know your there. It's about showing ur baby ur there for them. If "these ways" include going out n partying I suggest u cut it down, or stop at all. You're a new mother, and should live ur life for ur new baby. Congratz btw. Good luck!
2006-06-16 20:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by MisSieS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child will show you how good of a parent you are as and when they grow.
You have a very long road ahead of you, you and baby are now each others teachers, each others pupils and you never know what lessons you have before you so you have the element of surprise and shock and sadness and every other emotion to come to help you both learn and grow together.
Good luck and don't worry, just relax and enjoy your new life being a mum.
God Bless You
2006-06-16 20:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds hokey but you've got to want to change. LOVE being enough is pretty much fluff and fairy stories. You still have to work and put a lot of effort into raising a baby and being a good parent. It may mean sacrificing some of your "ways"(especially if they potentially hurt your baby directly or indirectly). But don't be a martyr. One of the things to help you be a better parent is to meet your needs as well as your baby.
2006-06-16 20:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Father with 2 kids, aged 20 and 14 here. Both of them just dandy.
I think the 'rules' are simple ones. Be consistent with your partner so that the kids will be consistent with you. Give the kids all they need, but only half of what they want. Say Yes when Yes is the right word to say, say No when it isn't. Remind them, if necessary, that they live with you, and that you do not live with them. Tell them that you love them at least once a day. Do not push them to be/do what they do not want to be/do. Permit them the rare day off from school, even if they are not ill (after all, we take them off from work too, yes?) And remember that 50% of communication between people involves listening too.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-16 20:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Superdog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know in your heart that you are doing everything you can for your child... if you know you are doing the best that you can; making decisions based on what is best for your child; taking care of their physical and emotional needs to the best of your abilities. Then you can rest certain that you are a good parent... and if like me your best just never quite seems good enough, then just love your child as much as you can and it makes up for the rest.
[mother of 4... 25, 22, 17 and 14 and grandmother of one very spoiled 3 year old!]
2006-06-16 20:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by n_hale1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your "Ways" are. If it is something that could be harmful to your baby you need to make a tough decision about whether to keep him/her and decide to make changes in your life or to give them up to someone that can properly take care of them. There is no such thing though as a perfect parent. Everyone makes mistakes.
2006-06-16 20:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes love is not enough, especially when you've still got feelings for your old ways. If you really want to change then sit down and take a few minutes to ask yourself these questions. What do i need to give my child?
What do i want to give my child?
What do i need to do for my child?
What do i want to do for my child?
How can i make the relationship between my child and i special?
What do i absolutely need to do for my child to look back one day and say "my mom is the best in the world!"?
Remember, be firm but gentle and let your child learn to love and love to learn.
What i wanted most from my parents is to listen to me and allow me to take a few risks with guidance instead of just trying to shove a lifestyle down my throat.
2006-06-16 20:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are teaching your children the word of God in the bible and guide them as they grow up. Be a good model to them
Train up a child in the way he should go, And even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6
2006-06-16 20:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to know u r a gud parent. the child will not do any thing wrong when u r not around and will not decieve u but the best way to bring up a child is to use the bible.
2006-06-16 20:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by cuteangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋