ok, my bf and I hace talked about having sex, as it turns out he thinks we should wait, (I find that odd for some reason) and i would be ready for it any place any time,( i really want to ) why does he want to wait? is this norrmal?
2006-06-16 19:34:57 · 15 answers · asked by absentminded874 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he wants to make sure its right he is probably worried about how it will effect your relationship...because it could be very oquard once u have sex. he may not be sure if he is ready or not...and hes thinkin of all the possible things that could happen i think hes very smart...but talk about it together talk about everything and dont pressure him or dont yourself give into pressure
2006-06-16 19:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it only shows you have a boyfriend who is sweet and caring and sensitive, who is with you because he really likes you, and not just to have cheap sex (like some guys). Normally you hear about the girl not being ready and then the guy has to wait for her and respect that. So now you are the one having to respect his wishes. sex is not good anyway when one person isn't ready for it. What you can do is talk to him, ask why he wants to wait. But never force him, and don't let this come between you. If the relationship is good, the sex will follow and it will be phenomenal!
2006-06-17 02:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't something you should approach lightly. I know it sounds cliche, but, sex should be between two people that are deeply in love (not that I am saying you two aren't). You almost have to experience what it is like to sleep with someone that you really like, and then have it fall apart, breaking your heart, to really understand why you should wait. It can be a really intense experience, so make sure you are emotionally ready to handle it all. It seems like the guy you are with is wise. My philosophy is. is that if a guy is respectful enough to want to wait before taking your relationship to the next level, he probably really likes you and isn't ready for the potential weirdness that comes with having sex with someone for the first time.
2006-06-17 02:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by calicandy27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex in/on itself wold be VERY empty,as it's supposed to be an expression of love and more designed to consummate marriage. The body,soul and mind unite. You may have sex to gratify an urge but you will not be satisfied!Sex drive is naturally normal but if left without control, can have disastrous results especially emotionally ( it can leave wounds that are not healing or if they do lasting scars which don't erase).
To have a man who isn't rushing into sex is one blessing in disguise. Before rushing to conclude that this is "funny".Know that unless there is another problem you did not highlight, this is a show that he respects you.Men have a tendency of not liking to hurt the lady they love,treasure or value.
On the other hand sex before marriage really interferes with the future relating capacity as it develops in one, an element of mistrust. As mentioned above it consummates marriage now in good faith if one is not married what are we consummating?
You may find him not normal as majority nowadays are going for gratification rather than satisfaction!! (In which area do you fall).
Finally the major organ in sex, is the brain;as it controls the rest of it. If you can try to engage a "governor" in the pressure/urge, you will understand him and also talk it out with him without exacting pressure on him.
2006-06-17 03:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like youve found a great guy! A guy that wants to wait has respect for you! and doesnt want to rush things! Thats really good!
2006-06-17 02:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah baby you are normal, I think you're b/f is a tad gay... If you need a real man with a big one that's ready to go... Hit me up.
2006-06-17 02:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... yea i gues it is normal... some guys r different than others and like maybe hes just nervous or something... he's normal but maybe ur the one that isnt... how old r u? well hey good luck with ur boyfriend.. im sure it'll all work out :-)
2006-06-17 02:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Juno. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm ......
good tht he'z tellin to wait. he isnt ready for committment yet.
n think bout it, wht if u 2 had it a he goes off after 1 month ? u'd be cryin foul all ur life ....
n if ur toooooo eager , mail me :)
2006-06-17 02:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by ankur_ak2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not normal at least as a girl. Its a insult for a girl to ask first, they should have to be at least egostick and full of pride. Do you have reason to ask for all this. I KNOW "NO".
2006-06-17 02:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by HARITMA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO DUDE SAYS LETS WAIT UNLESS HE'S A. gay B. thinks your ugly C. has a std or D. HIS WEINER IS SMALL!!!! fo reals! Shabutie!!
2006-06-17 02:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by fatdyck_bastard2222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋