look u got wrong he has two little boys hes never hurt them and what i was tryin to say is that i no hes violent and im afraid that he will come after me one day he gets mad alot he loves our baby with all his heart so i have thing to worry there but me he abuses me emotionally all the time but then says that he was just mad and didnt mean it and that he loves me. But look i just turned 18 i need to live my life not being afraid to go out w/ friends.. i just dont no what to do!
2006-06-16 19:15:07 · 16 answers · asked by mybaby_des 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey that is what I mean. You are 18 and he will never stop "once and abuser always an abuser" if it is physical or emotional it is abuse and it will only get worse. If you have parents willing to help then you go to them. If not then you find someone you can trust that will help you with the baby and you go. Use the resources there in your area. But you have taken a step here to ask for help. that is a good thing. Now you have to plan your work and work your plan, if you wanna know what that means just ask when you are ready.
2006-06-16 19:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Good for you exploring your options with others. my understanding about abusive partners is that it gets worse...allot worse. Death frequently happens especially when the woman tries to leave or end the relationship. Call 411 information for the women's shelter in your area, where you can go to get away from him. There should be an 800 number. You can get help there, so you can decide what to do. Do it for yourself. Do it for your baby..
You can do this. Get away and make a new life for yourself. Perhaps you need to be more the mother for your baby and stop going out with friends for awhile. I know you are 18 and have a right to be happy and free...but your baby needs you now. You need you now. God bless you.
2006-06-17 02:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lilaac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!! Oh you sweet girl! I am so sorry. You need to get out of that relationship. You here all the time about those who stay and end up dead. When will he start on the kids?? You need to move. Keep your phone number unlisted. Get a restraining order. (Been there, donr that) It's not hard to do. Get a big dog , if possible and enlist help of family members and close friends. You need to look out for you and your baby. That is NO way to live. Get out NOW!!!!! Good luck, sweetie!
2006-06-17 02:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by taraleighsg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let no man make you afraid to live your life.Verbal abuse is just as bad a physical abuse ! If not worse. Get A Restraining ORDER, Then try to not go out alone or with out protection, like pepper spray, even a travel size can of hair spray in your purse will work. LOVE does not hurt! LOVE is not giving verbal or physical abuse, then saying sorry and expecting it to be all forgotten. LOVE IS kind gentle understanding, when when you are upset learning to walk away or keeping mouth shut till both have cooled down. He DON'T LOVE, He is addicted to you! Please get the order placed on him, stay clear of him, his words of I LOVE YOU is not LOVE.! That's my opinion. Please take Care.
2006-06-17 02:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Brat-tett & Brat Pack's 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emotional abuse is still abuse.If he truly loves you he wouldn't say or do hurtful things to you. Children should not be exposed to violence or degradation. When he hurts you, he is also hurting the children.Abuse, without outside help, only increases.Also, part of being a good father,is being respectful of your childs mother,and being a good mother means keeping your baby out of harms way.
2006-06-17 02:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move back in with your parents if you're not living with them, get a restraining order, and work on full custody of your baby. He's dangerous and needs loads of therapy.
2006-06-17 02:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by testrun66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey even guys say the answer is a restrain order
2006-06-17 02:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by STARSGIRL! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with soulmate_n_nc plus is not good for your baby to be in an environment like that .
2006-06-17 02:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to school put the kids in daycare and and think about your future with or without him
2006-06-17 02:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by colbydog43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse is worse than physical.
2006-06-17 02:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by lil bit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋