I recently broke up with my boyfriend who was still in love with his ex-partner and told me I had to understand that he had been with this woman for five years and he wanted time to himself. But he wanted to be friends with me. A week after we split he invited me to a presentation night. I didn't think it was a good idea only after a week of splitting. He contacted me the following week to catch up and see a movie so I did all he wanted to brag at how he ended the relationship. After two months he contacted me again to catch up, this time he was ever so nice (guilt) and stated that he was hoping to go on a holiday and hope his ex-partner comes with him but didn't know how her new partner would feel and he said maybe we can catch up again. I'm not sure what should I do?
2006-06-16 19:14:44 · 6 answers · asked by lou20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are seeking happiness,committment,trust,and a lasting bond;find a real man,unlike him,that can make up his mind
If you are seeking pain,rejection,low self-esteem,a way to waste your love and time;stick with him.
I've been through a similar relationship,but it seems the guy is still into his past girlfriend because he prefers to spend his time more than you a lot of the times.
He still likes you of course,but he probably is more attached to her since they were together for five years.
I think he is scared to lose her,and at the same time he is probably scared to lose you too.
Don't blame yourself or think you aren't good enough for him.
He spent years bonding with this girl.
It's takes longer for a bond to break than for a heart to heal.
Try to spend more time appreciating the love from your friends and families.
Maybe there's another guy in your life that likes you,you should give him a chance.
Count your blessings before they're gone.
This guy is a fool,a waste of time.
He is probably attractive,but listen to mom's kind of wisdom:
seek real love cause beauty fades.
REAL love should only bring tears of joy,not pain.
You don't need ANY fool to bring more complications in your life.
A real man puts his woman first.
Love isn't blind,but when we are in love with a person our hearts want to believe the good things only.
Open your eyes,this guy WILL later regret he picked her over you.
What goes up must come down
What goes down will come up
2006-06-16 19:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lou20, just try your hardest to stay away from your ex-boyfriend. the reason why i am telling you this is because you are his safety net, he knows that when things don,t go right with his ex-girlfriend that he can always come back to you. now how to break free from this relationship is totally up to you, i know that you love him, but you have to be the one to say enough is enough. try avoiding him as much as possible, if he calls you tell him that you are busy and that you,ll call him later, make a list of goals for yourself,try enrolling in a college or take a hobby seriously, pamper yourself get your hair done,nails fixed,maybe even get a bikini wax. the more you focus on yourself the better you will feel about your self.
2006-06-16 19:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out that you cannot be friends with him, because it hurts too much. Tell him you don't want him to contact you anymore. He has nothing to lose by trying to keep you on a string. Your heart is at stake here, and you need to be left alone. Tell him how it is, and stick by your word. He is torturing you, and you are allowing it. After you tell him this, do not answer his calls. If he doesn't respect your wishes, then start being rude when he contacts you. Your heart is your responsibility, and this guy will just break it over and over.
2006-06-16 19:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by percolated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away as fast as you can. He isn't ready for a new relationship since he is still trying to prove to the other girl that she should come back. Actually sounds like he wants to get her back just so he can be the one to call it off. Maybe that is his way of getting closure. That however is not your problem. He is obviously inconsiderate of you and your feelings or he wouldn't be dumping all of this in your lap. I think that is insulting to you. Find yourself someone who respects you!
2006-06-16 19:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You relationship is the most complicated one Ive ever known!!! Get out of it first, really get out, dont ever see him again, no telephone talk, no email, nothing. Then it'll do.
2006-06-16 19:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by bla_bla_bla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmmmm.......
try making hid jellos
2006-06-16 19:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by bugzaper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋