wasteing my life?

Question

hey, i feel that i have somehow lost the last 3-5 years of my life to misery. it seems nothing i have done has gotten me anywhere, i feel that my friends and i are growing worlds apart. i am 17 years old and feel like i have wasted my life, like there has been many opertunites that i havent took, things that were suppost to happen didnt, i dont know but someone give me advise on how to live. show me how to live

Answer 1

The good news is that there is a very big chance that only a small portion of your life is over. Iit could be 17%, give or take, but that could mean you still have 83% to go, and it's not quantity that counts so much as quality. :) I would assess you priorities and think about what types of things you would see as meaningful. What do you like to do? For me, my faith, my family, and my friends (I have VERY few close friends too, again, quality, not quantity) are the most important things. It doesn't always happen but I try to order the rest of my life around those things, in that order. Giving everything to God and letting him direct my life was the best thing I ever did - it's something I have never regretted, and he brought me from a pretty low point when I was around your age. Life is a choice - choose to live and choose to do your best. Are you growing apart from your friends because they aren't helping you to grow, or do they make a positive difference in your life and you recognize that you need to pursue these friendships and invest the time to make them close again? Maybe you have come to a point in your life that you need to embark on a new adventure. I don't know if you're still in school, but if not, maybe it's time you move to a new place, start a new job, take a different class, or if you are in school, pursue a different major. Take time to help others, you'll find making other people happy does wonders for your own mood. As for your past, learn from it, but don't beat yourself up about it and don't let it hold you back from making the future better. You can't change what's happened, but you can change what you do with it. If there are relationships to be mended, get to it! I can't remember a single apology I have regretted. Do the people you care about know it? Tell them! Show them! Sometimes people think they are being abandoned by those they care about, but when they step back and look they find that they themselves are the ones who actually did the moving. One of my favorite quotes is: "Change is inevitable. Growth is optional." Something to think about. I wish you the best! God bless~

Answer 2

any high bridges in your area? make sure you hit sharp rock(s).



ok ok... not funny, but... you should seriously just not worry, being a teenager is something that is rough on all of us. Im 20, but still have mood swings like you do it sounds like. Theres days we feel like ****, and days we wonder what we were thinking yesterday. The fact of the matter is, if your referring to "opportunities" such as hookups with the opposite sex you could have partaken in, my opionion is, don't make the same mistakes twice. One thing ive learned is, (assuming you were in this situation too) is to always go for the sure thing. I can't count the times that ive had 2 or more girls in my sights, and the [less pretty, or the one i liked less] girl would really try to come onto me, and i kinda put her on layaway for another opportunity. THIS DOESNT WORK.
Now if your talking about substance use, if your friends are druggies, **** that ****, seriously. Alcohol is fine in moderation, and MAYBE a little weed (though i don't advise it) If your friends turn into thiefs or anything like that, don't follow them down that path, so not worth it. Just be yourself, and try letting new people (or perhaps people you havn't been close to lately) into your life. I notice lots of people get tied up with the same set of friends and conform to fit into the group. This is kind of unhealthy, as a group of friends can change a lot over the course of a few years. I have kept a few of the same friends for basically all my life, but recently have went on "breaks" where i would only be talking them once or twice a month. But maybe after a year or so, they changed again to something i like.

My final thoughts:
People change, and you probably have too. Give people chances in life, its the only way to live. Also, don't turn down a good time just because your worried about what someone might think of you later.

Answer 3

dude relax you are only 17, a world of promises and oppurtunities await you out there so have patience. At your age everyone does have a hunger for attaining somethings and theres a general feeling of emptyness inside believe me its a temp passing phase. The oppurtunities that have gone by mean that there are bigger ones in the pipeline. Freinds do grow apart sometimes but you also get to make new friends everytime. its like water flowing under a bridge. I am sure that in the coming years you will discover a new meaning of your life and learn to live up to you expectattions..so till then all the best and keep the faith

Answer 4

@ 17 there's plenty of time to get it right. Don't worry, most of us don't know what they want to do in life until the late 20's and sometimes never. Do you have a hobby? A special interest?
Maybe your goal and aspiration should be pointed in that direction.

I wanted to be an artist when I was your age. Family and peers pressure persuaded me to get a real job, so I became a computer programmer and wasted 15 years of my life.
Outside of financial security, my life was empty. I'm now self-employed, financially secured and thinking of getting back into my original goal of being an artist.

Take your time.... you're still younger. There's plenty time for mistakes and achievements. Stay well & good luck!

Answer 5

You're 17. Life is just beginning for you. Yeah, I know, when someone told me that at 17, I thought they were full of crap too.

You still have yet to have many successes and many failures. They key for you, should be to enjoy your successes and learn from your failures.

If you're not enjoying your life, change it. First start with subtle and simple changes, and then move on to big ones if you're still not happy.

I cannot tell you how to live, only you know how to live. What I can suggest is that every morning, wake up and say to yourself "Today is a new day. I am going to be happy, and I'm going to accomplish something." You'd be suprised how well that works.

Good luck.

Answer 6

hey! i'm 17 too and i'm also going though the things you're going through right now... i mean, who doesn't? but that's just the essence of life! whenever we thought that our life is just wasted because the things we're expecting didn't come it doesn't actually mean like that. maybe those things we're expecting arent't meant to happen now or whenever. if ever you think that you haven't grabbed opportunities then i guess it was not meant meant for you... you see, everything happens for a reason. if you're asking why then let's just say that there's something better in store for us...
and showing you how to live? live a normal life... have fun, go out on dates and hang out with you friends, join some organizations that do things for a good cause, thank God for giving you a precious gift called life... we're still young you know and we shouldn't take life too seriously...
i know i'm babbling right now, but just got to much to say to you...lol! contact me whenever you feel that you have someone to talk or just listen to. i'm your friend. =)

Answer 7

Honey I am 35, divorced for the 3rd time and raising two kids alone. Be happy that you have the ability to get out and meet new ppl and can do things. Make your self get out and get into the community and do something. Finish high school prepare for college and start looking at the glass half full instead of empty.

Answer 8

You are only 17 !!! You haven't even begun to live yet........You are just going thru a slump and it will pass....................You have so many wonderful years ahead of you...You have freinds to be made and things to do and places to go...Don't let things get you down if something doesn't turn out then you move on.......Life is too precious to go thru it and not be happy..Live every day to the fullest .Some days you may do nothing but hey thats something....................You will meet that someone special . don't know when but it will happen ..Just be good to yourself ....and love yourself ..You can't love anyone else until you love yourself......You have to make it happen , noone is going to do it for you!!!! If things get you down think of something good Good Luck

Answer 9

high school sucks, don't worry about it. I've been there. just don't worry. Think to yourself: did I really want to take advantage of this oppurtunity? If no, then what to worry about? If yes, then so what, it's in the past and always be aware of oppurtunities you might like and never regret a decision. I feel the same way about friends, I just graduated and already don't see 90% of my graduating class. So in truth you probably are growing worlds apart. High school sucks, try to make the most of it and wait it out. I hope I don't sound to cynical, but you sound like you think too much like me.

Answer 10

Hon, you sound depressed. Clinically. That doesn't mean there's no reason for your feelings, it just means it's got to the point where you are probably chemically compromised, and won't come up with decent solutions, without some kind of support right now. Get some help from someone non-judgemental, and preferrably trained.
Really. You don't sound good, and I think you need to get onto it. Good luck, ok?