if you read my other (older) questions you'll see that i am in love with my best friend. she thinks of me as just a friend but she alows me to cuddle with her. i always ask her if she is "okey" or "feels confortable" about it. is it ok to ask alot? i just want to make sure i am not making her feel weird. do you believe it would be annoying or hurting my chance to be with her? or am i doing the right thing making sure she is ok with me hanging on her?
2006-06-16 18:22:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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oh forgot to add. she always tells me "it's okey" and "don't worry about it" but i fear she might just being to nice to me and doesn't want to hurt my feeling"
2006-06-16 18:36:28 · update #1
it can get annoying but i mean, you always want to be sure about it though. just let her know you don't want to move too fast on her and just take it slow. you don't want to rush things. things take time. love takes time because she probably might soon think the same about you. tell her how you feel, if she doesn't know and remember to take it all slow.
2006-06-16 18:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Young Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying that while I don't know how you are in her presence...chances are I'm pretty sure she knows your desire to be with her. Its hard to hide something that you feel so deeply about and its obvious you do. ANd while you are so concerned about ruining your chances there's such a thing as being too overly cautious. Walking on eggshells around someone is hard to hide and after a bit it can and will become annoying. Especially if the feeling isnt being reciprocated. Take heart though....from the sound of it...you mentioned she lets you cuddle with her.....let me tell you...cuddling is intimate...when we are annoyed or not interested...cuddling is definitely NOT something we want to do with that person. My advice to you is to be patient. Its hard especially when you want something so bad. But sometimes patience and space even is the best game plan. Let her come to you. You need to excercise some tactic here....step back a bit....let her see that you arent all over her... make her do a lil work! That way she knows its worth it. To answer your question..yes, asking if your okay too much can get annoying. I know you dont want to mess up. So excercise a bit of patience and give her a bit of space. She will come around.
2006-06-23 18:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by indithral11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...stop asking. And Baby, if she is cuddling with you, there is an interest on some level. (I love physical contact....but I have never cuddled with a guy who was ONLY my friend). So, yes..keep your mouth shut.....she wouldn't be next to you if she wasn't comfortable. Next time, wrap your arms around her, and snuggle closer....let her feel the warmth of you breath against her neck for awhile. Say something nice like...."you smell so good"
Or "you fit perfect in my arms". You can gage her response to determine if you go any further. She may be waiting for you to make a move. And the last bit of advice....it's very considerate to ask about her feeling.....but overdoing it with the same question could almost be a turnoff.....especially if she already answered it. We love confident men......be comfortable with yourself and take a chance.....what do you have to loose???
2006-06-16 18:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she just thinks of you as a friend then you shouldn't be cuddling with her. Shouldn't you be cuddling with someone who will like you back in the way that you want? It doesn't matter to me if I like a person or not, it IS annoying to be asked a question I've already answered more than once.
2006-06-19 20:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by RYSN1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH! Asking too often makes you CLINGY and NEEDY. You are clinging to her every word and in need of her accpetance. Yes it gets way past annoying! Stop it and just enjoy the moment..if u don't there may not be many more. I can send you the name and number of someone who can tell ya that it is........he is no longer in my life for just this reason..his name...CLINGWRAP!
2006-06-16 18:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good to check in and ask if she's ok, just don't over do it. If you ask her once and she says everything is fine then leave it at that and hopefully you will get to know her even better so that you can tell if she is ok or not without asking.
p.s. I agree with "bobby_brenda"'s answer, that's your best bet
2006-06-19 20:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by cute_but_dangerous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you might be asking too much, then maybe you are...try chilling out a bit. If she already said it's fine with her more than once before, that's probably her final answer.
2006-06-16 18:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , i think it would hurt your chances to be with her , because it seems like it would get annoying , instead of always asking is it okay just tell her one night when you want to cuddle , if i ever try to cuddle with you and you are not comfortable with it would you tell me ....
2006-06-19 20:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by bobby_brenda_slone2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont imagine she receives annoyed,she will probable allow you to understand that she has a bf n refuses to grant you her huge type.yet,i don quite imagine tat u sholud in reality get her huge type cz ur interested in her.u could also hv her huge type cz ur frens ceremony?bt if she quite hv a bf den plz kp a suitable distant from her.i recommend jz b her fren n nth else.don damage their love...
2016-10-14 05:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully she really is comfortable with it. And no i don't think that you can ask to many times.I think that it is really sweet that you think about asking to make sure she is comfortable with the situation.
2006-06-16 18:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋