my sister hasn't had a lot of men but when she does have a casual fling she's straight into their beds after a couple of hours and wonders why she gets used. is it me or is she a gold plated slapper
2006-06-16 18:00:36 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should really talk about your sister like that my friend and especially not on the internet, then again something tells me it's not your sister you are talking about really is it?
2006-06-18 01:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by franticsearch 2 · 10⤊ 6⤋
She isn't, and even if she is making choices that you or others may not approve of, you shouldn't think of your sister that way. Chances are, she might outwardly seem confident, but girls who are "easy" are generally suffering from a low self esteem and she probably wants attention and affection from guys. Maybe she thinks they wont like her looks or personality, so she is getting the affection in the wrong way - by sleeping with them because she thinks thats what they want. She probably feels pretty bad about it, and if others look upon her as dirty, she probably feels ten times worse. She might need to talk to someone about the fact that she has a lot more to offer people that just sex, and put a higher price on herself when making those choices. More than anything, she needs her good friends and family to support her - it would hurt more than anything for her to think that her own family thinks of her as a slapper - tactfully talk to her about it. You'll probably find she doesnt enjoy it as much as she makes out.
2006-06-16 19:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by miss_behavin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has quite low self esteem if she jumps into bed with people early on. Perhaps having a sibling who considers her a "gold plated slapper" doesn't help.
2006-06-16 19:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Trish D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must have a really screwed up perception of what guys really want in a relationship and all these guys can figure out about her is that she is a booty call because they can get her into bed so easily. Most guys don't look for "Will she sleep with me in only a few hours of knowing me?" as good relationship quality when they are looking for someone. She needs to set higher standards for herself. She also seems to have a low self image because of what she is doing to herself.
2006-06-16 18:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by pinkmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that sad! What I find even sadder is maybe you playing a part in her behavior,maybe try talking to her you may find out she has low self esteem, and if she reads this hows that going to effect her. There is ways and means of guiding people in the right direction.My bet is that she dos'nt sleep around because she loves sex its because she feels wanted and there is that bit time before sex where you feel wanted with talk,cuddles ect! The sex is just what you go along with because you like the warmth,loved,closeness that makes you feel human! I understand your concern honest I do, but if you talk to her like this to her face then maybe she will loose any self respect she has left.Your her brother you should be protecting her from talk like this not adding to it,keep saying she all these bad things I swear she will just think she is nothing,worthless and it will never stop!
2006-06-16 19:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gold plated slapper...WTF is that?
is she a ****, well yeah, but hell- if she's having fun and using a condom...so what? Tell everyone she was adopted if they think that you're like her....tell her that you are going to deny her as a sister if she keeps up that shite, cuase it makes you look bad.
2006-06-16 18:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's horny and yes she has to stop being used. instead of judging her, talk to her. Give the male point of view - it'll help. Many women actually believe that men will love them if they sleep with them, so perhaps she has to be told that men like getting sex easily
2006-06-16 18:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by 40andgoing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just needs to learn that sex isnt everything and just because you give it to a guy does not mean he will like you more. some guys only want that and look for girls like your sister. she needs to get some self confidence and relize she is better then that and stop jumping into their beds after she meets them.
2006-06-16 18:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by kantriella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a straight up gold plated slapper. LOL, LOL, LOL, LOL.
2006-06-16 18:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by StudentoftheHumanCondition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for her, she must feel like that will get the guy to like her or commit to her...eventually she will learn that it is not working and maybe hold out a little longer in the future
2006-06-16 18:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to judge her too much. It is obvious that your sister is a very unhappy person. She confuses her popularity in sex for being wanted and loved. Hey try talking to her there will be plenty of others putting her down please don't be one of them.Be Lucky Dirky
2006-06-17 00:22:33 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋