My boyfriends sister, abby, jus got engaged to her boyfriend, steve... and well my boyfriend is really pissed off cuz a long time ago steve had sex with my boyfriends girlfriend at the time and broke them up. so the situation is kinda awkward and i dont know what to do about it all because my boyfriend is really upset and i feel like i should help him out, but then again i dont want to cuz its all about his ex girlfriend
2006-06-16 17:55:33 · 17 answers · asked by fallenfire99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah i kinda talked to him about it tonight and he said hes just scared that steve will cheat on his sister again
2006-06-16 18:04:07 · update #1
so it makes sense that he would be pissed... i would be too if my sister got engaged to someone that cheated on her. but it still hurts that i have to hear every detail about what happened with his ex
2006-06-16 18:05:40 · update #2
If hes happy in his current relationship with you, he shouldnt be upset about it still. He shouldnt hold a grudge because its in the PAST. Men who hold grudges like that are usually just acting like babies and they just want attention.
Trust me I know, I used to be the same way. He needs to grow up and you need to tell him that hes being absurd about it because you have the right to feel awkward and dislike how hes feeling. Its the past, you should feel offended.
Women are the ones that hold grudges, men usually just forget about it and move on....like its yesterday's news. There is something not right for him to feel this way. This isnt an issue with him and his ex....its an issue with him and you.
2006-06-16 18:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sean I.T ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Yikes, that's a tough one. But yes, your instinct seems correct to try to both remain sympathetic to your boyfriend because he does not like Steve, while still being happy for Abby's engagement, even if it is to the dreaded Steve. Maybe Steve has changed though and is now a good guy, in which case, your boyfriend is then just wasting his time being upset with Steve, when really his pride is still just hurt about what happened with Steve and his ex so long ago.
If it were me (I'm 33 so would feel more an expert if 83, but anyway), I would just say, "I know, I know" to your boyfriend when he goes on any Steve rants, but not get involved with your real opinion. The rants will become fewer and less harsh as your boyfriend gets used to the Steve/Abby engagement.
2006-06-16 18:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole Muller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he all of a sudden upset that Steve is marrying his sister? Didn't he have a problem that they were dating too? Something isn't right here. You are right. Their relationship is over and he can't just be mad at Steve because his ex also let it happen and took part in it so it sounds like there are still feelings there.
2006-06-16 17:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may think that this is an insane idea but i really think you should stop hanging out with your ex because he seems to still have a pretty strong hold on you and if you're not careful you just might mess up your current relationship, so, if you value this current relationship you'll have no problem with letting go of your ex, not that i think it's your ex's fault but this whole thing with him just isn't working
2016-03-27 18:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is the to tell him to put the past behind him because he doesn't make any sense to hold a grudge. If he lets it go and moves on, he'll be okay because i know he wants to look like the better person and not the wack one. when he lays his head down to die, he's going to be reminded of it by God so its for the best to get over it.
2006-06-16 18:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Young Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rico Suaaaaaaaave
2006-06-16 17:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bonethuggg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady your kind of in a pickle right ? Don't get me wrong , i try not to judge anyone else but looks like you would be good to just stay out of it all together !
2006-06-16 18:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would be concerned with this grudge your man is carrying. I would tell him that his protests of this guy suspiciously seem like jealousy and if he can still be feeling that type of anger over an X then maybe he still isnt over her.
2006-06-16 17:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing and stay out if it. As much as you want to support you boyfriend, it's none of your business and could put you in the middle. Let him handle it !!!!!
2006-06-16 17:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your bf is mad cuz steve got his ex ,now his sister. he dont trust steve cuz he might think steve will come after you. talk to you bf
2006-06-16 18:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋