My boyfriend of 8 months and I have only been having sex once or twice a month lately because of our crazy work schedules and being exhausted most of the time. I work days, he works nights. I find myself horny and wanting him all the time though. Is it because we're not having enough sex or is it just more my need to spend quality intimate time with him (sex aside)?
2006-06-16 17:47:03 · 14 answers · asked by junebug 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thanks for the reassurance everyone... except you, palador. I mean, are you kidding? Not that I need to explain myself, but If you really must know, we are completely in love and committed to each other with definite goals and plans for our future. Hence the reason we're working so hard right now!! And for you to suggest I would cheat tells me you only half read my question. I very clearly stated I have this feeling for HIM and HIM alone. I think I'll post my next question stating "Why do some people try to spew way more advice than what is asked, without even knowing any detail?"
2006-06-18 15:38:17 · update #1
The fact that you have these feelings is 'normal'. The abscence of them would not be. Your working hard, on different shifts, tired, together but alone most of the time. Just remember, communication is important. Good luck and stop to have fun!!! He'll thank you!
2006-06-16 17:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is just normal , to live a beter life compromise are important just dont think about sex or lose the energy (created the sex drive) by a work out or excerise that will help u feel better then being frustrated
try it all the best
2006-06-17 00:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to take some time away with each other rebuild the bond without the daily stresses. And as always communication is the key
2006-06-17 01:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by jdhoggiebuns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is nothing but rationalisation on your part that you want to have some quality intimate time. you also don't seem to have planned your future. if you are so steady with him, why can't you think of marriage instead? the nature of your work is not clear, which exhausts you so much. if you're concentrating only on sex with him, you are coming in the way of his job or career, for your passionate demands on him. it's high time now to take some mature decisions. if you don't, he is bound to develop some other serious relationship, thinking you are just interested in a casual one. what are the steps that you have taken for this so-called quality intimacy as you term it? have you bothered for his welfare in any way? shown in any interest in his wo-life? met his family any time? intimacy means getting to know the individual in all his perspectives, not in a vaccum, my dear! if you are horny for sex, and he is off to work, i guess you are bound to cheat on him one or the other, and lose interest in him eventually. ask your heart, do you love him and want to spend your life with him, or is it just a temporory phase? try to engage yourself in some creative work also, instead of in sex as a pastime!
2006-06-17 01:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by palador 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need more sex. Just ask him. Go! Do it now. Don't make excuses. Or you can try this experiment. Get yourself off and see if you still want him after. If not it is just that you are really horned out.
2006-06-19 17:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ouros 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You work too much.Have a break,both of you guys.Are you from States or Canada?I'd think so.I'm originally from Europe,we don't work too hard but we have time to have fun at home.Try to take some days off,it should help.
2006-06-17 01:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Inuyasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, just remember, relationships aren't about how often you have sex. Even your sex life should be about quality, not quatity.
2006-06-17 00:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by sweetcheripie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is someone you love and think about often, and you want to have sex with him to show your feeling for him....this is very normal....be glad that you have him
2006-06-17 00:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your sex drive is normal ,especially if your young.
2006-06-17 00:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by tmblife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just normal. Dont get stressed over it. Just tell him that you want him and he will make time.
2006-06-17 00:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋