I want to spend time with my extended family but when I do my husband makes a big deal about it and makes me feel bad that I left him behind. I try to ask him to come with me but he just says he's tired.
2006-06-16 17:44:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He seems to be trying to control you. Don't let him. Keep saying "I am going, you can come". If he doesn't, that is his problem.
You may ask him this "why don't you want to go...really?" If he still doesn't give and answer, you need to explain that you will not stop going over and something needs to change.
2006-06-16 17:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person loves you they want for you what makes you happy. They understand that you can have friends, extended family, hobbies, etc. that have nothing to do with them. If they're threatened by these other interests they have a really big problem. But he's a really smart man because just think about it when he makes a big deal you do what he wanted all along....you stay home.
2006-06-17 01:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you want to do. By his behaving like a child, he's attempting to control what you do. Understand that he is being immature, and no matter how it makes you feel, go visit your family. Some men, for whatever reason, do this to women. I can tell you from experience that if you give in on this, he'll do it on other things and rather than fight, you will simply give in until one day you wake up and realize you have no life unless it revolves around him. Tell him to grow up and quit acting like a baby and quit trying to control you.
2006-06-17 08:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by kathy059 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to control --- stand up to his infantile behavior --- you invited him to go with you and he refuses --- you have nothing to feel guilty about - he's being selfish --- tell him you are wise to his control scheme and that if he doesn't want to go with you to visit family that is his choice but you aren't going to stop visiting them!
2006-06-17 01:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very immature and selfish of him. Don't give in to him. Either he goes with you or shut up.
2006-06-17 12:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't you replace "needy" WITH "D i c k h e a d"
2006-06-17 01:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by jgmafb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋