I am going to marry my Jordanain fiance in Jordan. Do I have to change my religion to Islam or stay christian?

Question

My fiance is from Jordan. He lived in the USA and had to return to Jordan for personal reasons. I am going to Jordan in a few weeks and we are going to get married. He wants a islamic marriage and then we will have an American one. Will I have to change my religion to Islam or can I remain christian?

Answer 1

...isn't it a little late in the game to be considering this question?

Answer 2

I would think that you and your fiance had that discussion long before he asked you to marry him. If you are a Christian now--born again, and have commited your life to Christ, then I don't see where there is much question.

However, do you realize that you are going to be "unequally yoked," as the Bible says, if you marry a man that is not a Christian?

If you have spent any time with this man and his family, you already know you're not going to be allowed to practice your faith. To ask that question here is a bit naive.

HAVE YOU DISCUSSED WITH YOUR FIANCE:
1. Your religious preference?
2. What your life will be like in Jordan, compared to US?
3. Why you cannot stay in the US until he can return from Jordan?
4. Once you are in Jordan and under Islam rule, will you be able to return to the United States without him?
5. Whether or not you will be allowed to work outside the home?
6. How many children he will require you to have?
7. How your children will be raised? Christian or Muslim?
8. How your children will be taught to treat their mother?
9. Have you had much contact with his family---sisters, brothers, mother, father?
10. What freedoms will you continue to have after your married and while you are in the custody of his family? Because you will be under their guard all the time.

My sister-in-law married a muslim - Iranian - just before the revolution in the early 1980s. She was warned---many times--that she would be killed by her husband or her husband's brothers if she ever tried to go back to the United States without her husband. And she was told by the women of the family that she would be killed if, when they had children, she ever tried to take the children with her out of Iran; that this was Muslim law.

Now, Thank God you have not gone against the teachings of the Bible---the Holy Word of God---and married a non-Christian man. You have time to save the rest of your life from immeasurable heartache, sadness, grief, and possible death at the hands of this person and/or his family.

Answer 3

It doesn't seem you know much about what you are entering into right now. I think you've been lured blindly into some dirty game. You're being led not by your head but by your feelings. Many American women have fallen victim of such deception in the past and lived to regret it big time. You don't think as a Christian that it matters anything to go through an Islamic marriage. Trust me, if you go through it you would have automatically adopted Islam as your religion. Did you ever ask your fiance that your marriage will not make you give up your Christian religion? If you tell him right now that you will never give up your religion after marriage, his family will never allow him to marry you. Just ask him and see what happens next.

Answer 4

Poor you in confusing state.I am in the state with you,but the difference is I am already married.
I converted to muslim since I have to marry my muslim wife.
In Islam if they are different it means you are doing the adultery.

Choosing your religion actually is the basic human right.
But what I feel now,my heart is quite tortured since there is so many differences from the Christians teaching to the Muslim teachings,all I can say It's almost completely contradictive.

At the end,everything it depends on u,but do not try to fool your heart,listen to your heart.And do not make a decision that you would regret the entire of your life.

If you really have to convert,then you must convert completely,with your heart and soul.Do whatever they tell u.
But If you think you afraid you can't do it,DON'T,because you shouldn't play with God.

The most important thing is:Investigate first what is islam,how are they,what are they doing before you decide.From there let you consience heart decide,not your blind love for your husband.

Good luck.

Answer 5

No matter what a country or person asks you to become or do, if it is against the will of God, you must do the right thing according to the scriptures. If you can't remain in Jordan unless you convert to Islam, I suggest you insist your fiance move back to the US with you, or find another fiance. I know that sounds silly and would be a difficult thing to do, but God ALWAYS comes first!!!

Answer 6

I'm no expert, but I believe if you marry someone outside the Christian faith, you are no longer accepted as Christian. Particularly with the Islamic faith...hm. I wonder how well you two will do in marriage - I don't mean to sound like a b*tch, but it's difficult sometimes when the two sides come from such different backgrounds - especially if neither side is wanting to convert for the other. The fact that you haven't discussed this and what it means is frightening..Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I really do not know the laws in Jordan, but I would think that would be a personal choice between you and your fiance. Are you planning to come back to America and stay? Then follow your heart and have faith in what makes you happy. Faith is something that cannot be forced. It can be brainwashed, but not forced. You can't force yourself to believe in Islam and if he is making you feel that you need to, drop him. It will only get worse. It is a HUGE red flag! Next thing you know, you will be waring a cloth over your face and have to go into another room when men come to visit. Not that all muslims are that way, but seriously, they do have a rep for being a tad bit chauvanist.

Bottom line: don't change your faith for someone. Faith is something you cannot force, it is something that is felt.

Answer 8

I just have one thing to say: Why in the world are you asking advice about such a serious decision on the internet??

Shouldn't you and your fiance be deciding this? I feel like this is something you two should have talked about some time ago. If you have to use yahoo answers because you don't feel comfortable discussing your spirituality with your fiance, you shouldn't be getting married.

Answer 9

Ultimately it is your choice. I knew a woman in a similar situation, and she remained agnostic, even though they had a child it did not work out. Islam as a religion is not really accepting of Christianity, they find the notion of worshipping a triple deity highly offensive, because it is evident to them that there has to be one single originator, and the other later entities obviously cannot have the same status. (Judaism feels the same way, but Jews, having lived in the west for ages, have learned to adapt, and do not seek to persuade others of their views. ) Islam translates into "submit".

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Answer 10

If he wants an Islamic marriage, you will have to convert. If he wants an Islamic wedding, you will not.

I hope you have a long and interesting chat of how you want to live your lives. If you are insisting on staying Christian, how will your children be raised?

If you convert to Islam, as an American, are you willing to give up the freedoms that an American woman has, to prostrate herself before her husband and bend to his will?

These are questions that you need to answer before any wedding, Islamic or otherwise take place.

Good Luck.

Answer 11

Yes. By Jordonian statute 1A-937 any male foreigner must convert to the religion of the female(if the female is from the country of Jordan) within 98 hours of the acquisition of proper marriage documentation.