ok so here is my problem i am dating someone and i love him to death but for some reason i called my ex out of the blue and i have talked to him for 2 days now and he really wants to meet up and have sex and it sounds good but i know i shouldnt. what do you guys think
2006-06-16 17:25:42 · 30 answers · asked by me m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are serious about this other relationship don't do it.... it would only cause confusion
2006-06-16 17:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kelé 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you reached out to someone because you want to see what your options are if this relationship doesn't work. The main thing to remember is that once you make the step forwarard everything changes on both sides. You may have sex and end up with your ex but he will alway think that you could do the same to him someday or it could only be a one time thing with the ex but then you have the guilt to live with if your relationship goes forward (you will either need to be straight with him or hr may find out another way). I say keep your mind clear of the ex and look for the good in the one you have now, don't break the trust he has in you.
2006-06-16 17:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by NotSoTweetOne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need help, but not the type that you think. Be true to yourself and those that you date. You don't love to death your current boyfriend, if a casual encounter with your ex sounds good and have been talking with your ex for the past two days. It seems that you are looking for something that you don't have in your current relationship. If that's the case break-up with your current boyfriend before you do something that hurts him. However, you still shouldn't see, nor talk to your ex. I think that you need time to think things over on your own as to what you are looking for, mature some and take it from there. You might discover you really don't want to lose the relationship you have or you just might realize that you still hold feelings for your ex and want to continue with that. The help you need comes in the form of time, there's no rush and a clear set of mind will help you decide what is best for you and for those involved.
2006-06-16 17:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Papagayo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop everything for a little while and sort things out.
You sound young. It's probably too early for you to really be feeling "love" in the way that people who marry and spend a half century together do.
By the way, I'm 65 and have been married twice. I have two married sons, one successfully married the other unsuccessfully. I appreciate successful relationships and don't think either of yours are the stuff of which successful relationships are made.
The good news--you probably have a lot more time to sort things out than you think. The better news, when it is right you will immediately know and it will be better than anything you have ever imagined.
Take your time, smell the roses, and enjoy being a kid. It doesn't last forever.
2006-06-16 17:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you dont really love the first guy like you say you do if you think meeting up with you ex to have sex sounds good. Dont mess with the first guys mind if you are still talking to your ex.
2006-06-16 17:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason that he's an ex - it is a BAD idea to get together with your ex.
If you love the man you're dating now, then you will be betraying that love by meeting up with your ex. You'll end up on the loosing end because when all is said and done, you'll be the one with no one.
2006-06-16 17:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by jamie63s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't do it you will get yourself involved in way too much drama. First there has to be something going wrong in the relationship you are having now otherwise you wouldn't have called your ex up. Second you must still have feelings for your ex if you want to have sex with him. Figure out your feelings and go from there.
2006-06-16 17:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by pinkmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved the person you're with, you wouldn't want to have sex with anyone else. Besides, now that your ex has just told you he wants sex, are you willing to degrade yourself like that? If you want that kind of excitement, it's not fair to your partner. If you want to have sex with your ex, make sure you're both single. So, don't go meet your ex, stop talking to him altogether. Your current partner deserves more than that.
2006-06-16 17:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by @~>--T--<~@ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is on the brain...and you can't shake it, tell your significant other of your problems, before you do something you'll regret.
Or just break up w/your SO and sleep with your ex for one meaningless night. Regret will be sure to come if you truly love the one you're with.
2006-06-16 17:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by dujoi84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur a whore. But thats beyond the point. Only u know who u love (LIKE). If u really like the guy ur with now, then ask ur self, "are u really willin to end a perfect relationship only 4 sex?". If u do decide to have sex with ur ex to end ur current relationship then u r truly a whore. Think it over.
2006-06-16 17:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't really love the guy you're dating to death if thinking of having sex with your ex sounds good to you.
PS. You're a whore.
2006-06-16 17:29:01 · answer #11 · answered by Talamascaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋