my dad askedme to co-sign on a loan so that he could attend a truck driving school, which stupidly I did. The alternative was to have him living with me because he was homelss after a g/f kicked him out. Anyway of course he quit the job and the school was taking money directly from his paycheck, he is now unemployed and back in my house living free. How can Iget him out? He did not raise me nor support me at all but I still try to show some respect for my elders however I am the single parent of three and a full time junior and only working pt. I have just conteplated moving and leaving no return address, help!
2006-06-16 17:19:45 · 8 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, you obviously tried to do good. if you continue to keep him, it will become a cycle and he will freeload from you the rest of his life. maybe you could suggest that he get counseling and if that doesnt work give him the boot
2006-06-16 18:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do that (the moving w/o leaving a return address thing)! Just be sure your father also isn't a dangerous man.
And if he's not, then speak your mind.
Although in some areas, there is a landlord/tenant law stating, that if he's inhabiting your home for more than 14 days, than he has to co-sign the lease of your residence. In other words, if it's been less than 14 days, he can be considered a trespasser, or if it's after 14 days, and such a law exists in your area, see if your landlord can penalize him or throw him out.
2006-06-17 00:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by dujoi84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the dead beat dad just tell him that you cannot support him anymore. He needs to start supporting himself and you have helped him as much as you could. If he has to there are homeless shelters he could go live at. They will help him try to get a job again and help teach him how to work with his finances but you need to stop bailing him out. He is old enough to be on his own and support himself.
2006-06-17 00:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by pinkmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult. So is he. Tell him you can not, will not support him. You have 3 children of your own. Don't be a doormat. Stand up for yourself! Tell him he has to get a job and move out of your home within a certain amount of time. Set a date and stick to it!
2006-06-17 00:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by itsmeee2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl!! ... you're putting up with way to much.. he's a grown man, for the sake of your sanity and your children tell him to get out.. he can figure the rest out on his own... he sure doesn't sound very responsible
2006-06-17 00:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by tootiefrootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did your part sweetie, and you have a full life of your own, do what ur heart tells you to do
2006-06-17 00:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Texas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough love throw him out hes not your problem or responsibility
you need to care for you and your kids
2006-06-17 00:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by harleythom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st. ask him to leave.
2nd tell him he is not welcome anymore
3rd chang the lock when he is gone
4th beat him up and drag him out
2006-06-17 00:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by piopo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋