i can't report it tho or tell my parents tho coz it was kinda my fault coz i snuck out with the guy and lied to my parents about where i was going and i said i was going with another girl and we were gonna hang at the mall. BUT something else happened, and i can't say or do anything because my parents will kill me for lying to them!!
2006-06-16 16:53:33 · 24 answers · asked by *gurlygurl* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 17 and i'm not allowed to date. if i tell them that i went against their wishes, lied to them, and this happened, they would hate me forever. is it worth reporting him? i kno that he won't come back and try anything again...
2006-06-16 16:59:28 · update #1
u should call the cops..he might come bck bc he thnks u wont do anythin..it might be much worse thn..ur parents might b pissed but at least ur safe
2006-06-16 16:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by NY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something happened to you without your consent, it is *not* your fault, not even partly. Do *not* blame yourself.
I don't know your parents, but there's a good chance that what they want more than anything is to keep you from getting hurt. If something happened to you, you should tell them -- your well-being is probably more important to them than the fact that you lied. If you just don't feel comfortable telling your parents, you should tell somebody, at least a counselor of some sort, who can give you advice as to what to do specifically (for example, whether what happened is something that the police can deal with).
I hope you are okay and that things will be okay for you. Remember, don't blame yourself, and don't be too hard on yourself for lying to your parents -- everyone makes mistakes, and the important thing here is what happened to you and whether you will be okay. Good luck.
2006-06-16 17:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone made you do something that your were not comfortable doing, you need to tell your parents. If you don't this guy could get away with it and may do it to other people. Or just think, he may have done it before and to someone much younger who is too afraid to talk. Your body is yours and no one should ever take advantage of that. Your parents may be upset at first but I'm sure that they will be even happier that you are ok. If there is some evidence please don't get rid of it. I'm sure you know that you are not suppose to take a shower or anything. Just tell your parents so they can take you to the hospital.
2006-06-16 17:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Food4Thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's society every man should know "no means no"! I had a very disciplinarian mother and father but when it came to situations were I made a mistake and admitted to it for help. They helped me!!!! I am sure the last thing on your parent's mind on this situation is to "Kill You". Being some what experienced in law the quicker you tell police the better. I don't know how old you are but you have to understand there is help out there counseling rape advocates etc. It is time to get out of denial and acknowledge what has happened to you and start correcting it. Good luck my prayers are with you.
2006-06-16 17:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by The Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they wont They may react badly at first because they were deceived but it will be mostly because something happened to thier baby. You must send a message to this guy that he can not do this.Report it tell your parents they love you regardless.You made a mistatke and everyone does but do not allow this to go unresolved you will also need counciling to help you get through This so dont keep it bottled up inside of you and dont let this happen to another woman or even worse.
2006-06-16 17:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by thomas p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were raped, then you need to tell somebody. Please tell someone older than you that you trust. I'm very sorry this happened to you. And It's not your fault but you need to be safe and let someone know. Tell your parents, yes they will be briefly mad that you lied to them, but they will be more concerned about you and what happened tonight. Get help. Please get help. Your parents love you and will support you, they only want what is best for you. They need to ensure your safety, which is why parents enforce rules, but you can't deal with this alone, please tell them. And go to the the authorities / police if you have to. Don't let this man rape or hurt another female. May God Bless you. Take care.
2006-06-16 17:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents... Be straight up with them... You know you made a mistake but you need to tell them... Holding this back is just going to bother you even more if you dont... This is no game its something that happened and you need to get the cops on him....
Also, maybe later you can sit down and have a mature conversation with your parents about your seeing guys issue here... Your 17 going to be 18, the world is easier to handle when your with your parents and it would be easier to date guys with your parents giving their advice on the guy..
2006-06-16 17:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by countrylove0707 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do something about it.The guy that did this to you should get what's coming to him.He took advantage of the situation.If something happened to you and you did something wrong,it doesn't justify someone doing something to you that you didn't want to happen.Your parent's are not going to kill you,but they are going to make sure something happens to him.How are you going to feel every time he walks by you and you knowing that he got away with what he did to you.It's just not right.And you made a mistake.what's the worse that can happen?You'll be grounded for a while and that's it.DON'T LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT! Good Luck! Go ahead tell them now!!!!!
2006-06-16 17:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by mobilmen59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were raped, then you really need to report it and get into counseling. If you told the boy no to his advances and he continued, then yes, you have been sexually assaulted and no it is not your fault.
Yes, your parents may be mad at being lied to, but do you want to risk a pregnancy without their help? They will be more angry with the boy who raped/sexually assaulted you than anything else.
Is there a sexual assault advocat in your area?
2006-06-16 17:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by jamie63s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, answer me this, do you want this guy to continue his path of unruliness and have this happen to another unsuspecting girl down the road? Do you want to talk to your parents at a later time if you happen to get an STD or worse yet a positive pregnancy test? Please talk to them now, I think this is something that needs to be reported right away! I am praying for you, I pray everything goes smoothly and you can do it right away!
2006-06-16 16:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u think it is rape u need to let someone know even if u think ur parents will kill u. It will be ok juss sit ur parents down and talk to them. And to be on da safe side have someone else in the room it could even be da police
2006-06-16 16:57:52 · answer #11 · answered by babygurl200532618420002000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋