2006-06-16 16:46:49 · 15 answers · asked by brandy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, the father of my son has never seen him but when we went to court to figure out how much he was going to pay for child support the judge didn't even set up any visitation rights. It depends on if they were established or not. If the father of my son decides he wants to see him then he has to go take me to court to get visitation rights. If he were to just show up and come and see him tomorrow then I don't have to let him see him and I don't have to let him in my house because visitations were never established.
So, if no visitation rights were established then you don't have to give him any rights until he takes you to court which it is highly doubtful he will if it has been 6 years. Also I am pretty sure that if they go so long with out seeing them, then basically they give up all of their rights, but they still have to pay child support.
2006-06-16 16:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Joni16_2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. Who cares about a father's rights when he hasn't been around for 6 years. You have to look at this from all angles and make your decision based on what's best for the child, and not the father. If he's not financially supporting the child the decision is yours. Maybe what you have to ask yourself is......can my child have a positive, healthy, loving relationship with his father? If he is financially supporting him, the court will decide. Just a note....remember if you allow this, the father is a stranger to the child and a relationship should begin very slowly.
2006-06-17 00:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like it or not a father has all his rights no matter how long it has been since he saw the kid. Unless a court hearing has been held to dissolve a parents rights they have em until a kid is 18 and can control their own lives.
2006-06-16 23:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by dleeldy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you abandoned your kid and never supported him/her or abused your kid, you have all the rights. Even abandonment, the court will not totally condemn. However, keep in mind that the older the kid, the more the court will take into account how the kid feels. As of 13-14, if your kid expresses valid reasons for not wanting to be with you, or have you involved in decisions concerning him/her, the court will take that seriously into consideration.
2006-06-16 23:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me the father has no right's to a kid if he hasn't seen them in 6yrs..but it all depend's on if the mother has full custody or not..if she does than there is no right's that the father has to the kid...and if the father hasn't wanted anything to do with the kid in 6yr's he's a low life father.
2006-06-16 23:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by big10pointers_baby_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, pretty much the same rights that you have, unless you have a full custody order. You have to file for custody [sole legal] even if a marriage never took place. If he decides he wants a part in that child's life, all he has to do is lawyer up. My advice is to at least consult with a paralegal in your state to find what legal recourse you have,
2006-06-17 03:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was by the fathers choice, thn he should get shot in the balls. if u tke him to court, it would look extremely favorably to you bc he has been gone for 6 years. if u can come up with a good reason, you should get a restraining order against him. he doesnt deserve to be part of your sons life. (im asuming ur the mother)
2006-06-16 23:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by NY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
legally - if he never signed over his parental rights... he has some. I'm not a lawyer... but I am a thinker....
And I think any man that hasn't seen his child in 6 years is a dirtbag piece of scum that SHOULDN'T have any rights.
2006-06-16 23:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by daddy's girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself if your child will still WANT to see you. YOU have NO rights to see the child, the CHILD has the RIGHT to see you if he or she CHOOSES to.
You have got to know that this child has got to be harboring feelings of guilt, hurt and anger. If you go in like the calvary-this will only make this child resent you more.
You need to get a third party involved, such as social services and contact this child letting him or her know that you wish to see them FIRST-or whatever is left in this relationship you have had with this child will crumble.
2006-06-16 23:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legal rights, you would have to consult with the judge, but if he has no relationship with the boy, legal rights won't mean a thing.
2006-06-17 00:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by pretty1girl13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋