My girlfriend is fairly well off (she owns a 2000 acre cattle ranch, plus she raises horses and has a wildlife refuge for various eagles and various other birds out in the back paddock), reasonably attractive (actually I think she’s lovely) and we have a lot in common socially. It’s just that she lives on the southern tip of Western Australia. I initially met her online although we’ve already spent time together as she’s a successful artist and she had a showing several months ago in Chicago. So I took the opportunity to be with her during the two weeks she was in town. Now I’m getting ready to move out there for several months just to be with her and to see if Australia agrees with me career wise. I already have the passport and the ticket purchased for departure. However, I just recently found out that I have a health problem that is unfortunately fatal, although not contagious and therefore not a danger to her or her children.
2006-06-16 15:53:27 · 8 answers · asked by Daedalus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nor is it sexually transmissible. I don’t have insurance to pay for medical treatment unless I cash in my ticket and liquidate all my assets, and still that doesn’t mean that I’ll be able to afford treatment, nor would it likely cure me. She’s already aware of my situation and has said that I should still come out there just the same. My question to you is should I do it? I’ve been thinking about this day and night and I can’t seem to get over this strange sense of irony about how my life has been. Just when I graduate from college and I’ve recovered emotionally from my divorce and I meet another woman whose wild about me, this happens. What do you think I should do? Do I put her through this burden? She’s already said she’d marry me if I wanted. And how do I clear it with my own conscience? I’ve always been the strong one and now this.
P.S. This isn’t a joke or sick attempt at getting attention. I mean this with all earnestness.
2006-06-16 15:53:38 · update #1
ashleyharrypotter: she's already aware of my financial situation as well.
2006-06-16 16:01:44 · update #2
I am so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like she's willing to take her chances on you....go for it. Unless there is something/someone else you want to spend the rest of your life with here in the states more than her, go to Australia and at least try it out. You owe it to yourself and, again, since she's willing to be with you no matter what your health, you owe it to her to spend the time with her. True, it could be rough on the kids....but kids need to know the good and bad about life.
Plus, what if this illness doesn't get to you or takes a much longer time to progress? Don't waste the time you have and give your girlfriend the gift of having you for whatever time she can. I wish you the best of luck and include my prayers.
2006-06-16 16:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by fendor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my. That's so sad, I'm so sorry. Life is cruel to the nicest people sometimes, isn't it?
I think you should go. Really. If she's willing to love you anyway, and be with you for the rest of your lives despite what you call a "burden" (she may not think of it that way), then it's worth it, I think.
When you get out there, tell her about your financial crisis - but don't try to hint around for money from her... just talk to her, in private, that you're not sure you want to put this burden on her. You need to see what she thinks and work this out together.
I wish you the very best, most sincere luck. :)
2006-06-16 22:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have met a lady who truly cares for you and I think you should go and do what makes the both of you happy. Why live the rest of your life without what could have been. I think you should go with no second thought's. I hope you get your treatment and live many, many years. GOD BLESS YOU.
2006-06-16 23:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nece 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The facts about how well off your girlfriend is are irrelevant. Figure out how you'd like to spend the remainder of your time and live it to the fullest. If that is in Australia...do it.
2006-06-16 22:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh... so sad!! Please go.. live the rest of your life to the fullest... from what I have read, apparently you haven't been happy this is your chance.. make the most of it.enjoy what you can while you can.. you only live once and she is aware of situation so it isn't like she doesn't know what is going to happen and may god bless you!!! your in my prayers!!!
2006-06-16 23:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go! Spend your life in happiness! Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-06-16 22:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by nimchex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Is that the quote?
make you both happy, "Just do it!"
Like the country song "Sky diving, rocky mountain climbin'..."
2006-06-16 22:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow the rainbow.
2006-06-16 22:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by LadyRedWild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋