My mom is 47 and she has been smoking since she was 17 (about- thats what she tells me). I HATE the fact that she is smoking and I am constantly trying to make her stop. I am always worried that she will get lung cancer. She smokesabout 5 cigarettes a day and they are really not that strong. Like now she is smoking malbaro ultra lights. Before she used to smoke these skinny cigarettes thatwere shipped from Europe. Will she EVER quit? I am so worried...I really want her to stop. What can i do?
2006-06-16 15:23:20 · 16 answers · asked by fancylady 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Smoking is a tough addiction to quit. The key to stopping is the personal desire to stop. If your mother doesn't have that desire she won't. To help her learn all you can about addiction. You might want to joint a support group to help you. Good luck to you both.
2006-06-16 15:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sully 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend's mom smoke and when she went somewhere she would take the cigarettes then put them in a bag and put down I love you. You know the right decision: to lose a family, life or have a healthy life. When she found the bag under the couch her mom quit smoking a couple of days later.
2006-06-16 15:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Kitty, you must realize that this is not your problem. It's your mother's problem. I understand that you worry about her and her health; there's nothing wrong with that. However, no can make anyone quit anything. Smoking is an addiction. She may have an addictive personality, so that if she did quit, she would probably take up another bad habit. Besides, she's an adult and knows that there are consequences for her actions.
2006-06-16 15:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by valkyria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they are lights doesn't mean they still won't cause the same harm. If you want you can verbally express the way she scares you, or try to set her up with with those groups that help support each other in quitting. Or you can both set goals that will require her to quit. Like how some people who want to lose weight and be fit again, they buy a really nice pants and then they work thier way into being able to fit them.
2006-06-16 15:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by outofwater920 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently took care of a man who had esophageal cancer caused by smoking. He was a pitiful case. He couldn't swallow at all, so he had to fed thru a tube in his stomach and he could not handle swallowing the mucus and secretions from his oral cavity, so he had to be suctioned every few minutes. He couldn't sleep because he couldn't breathe. His only method was to sleep two minutes, cough, choke, suction and go back to sleep for another two minutes. He could not talk. If that's not enough to make your Mom quit, I don't know what is.....maybe she'd like to be around to see grandkids or maybe she'd like to die of old age vs cancer. It is real, why wait for a wake up call that might be a deadly one???
2006-06-16 16:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is not much you can do except tell her that you love her and want to keep her around for a long time. Ultimately, quitting smoking is something your mom will have to decide to do on her own terms. Good luck!
2006-06-16 15:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by FutureMrsMarsalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her quit. That's something she'll have to do on her own. Get some facts off of the internet about smoking and the bad side effects, and then sit down with her and talk about your concerns. If she sees that you worried about her, maybe she'll think about what she's doing to herself and to you.
2006-06-16 15:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by Cassie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you could do is maybe try to throw a good scare into some how like i did to get my mom to quit. It can help but if that don't work then maybe somehow try to get her into a program to help her quit. It maybe expensive but in the end it will be worth it !
2006-06-16 15:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by im_not_psycho_im_cute89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is admirable that you are trying to help her. First, be strong for her. For her to quit, she really must want to. Show her what could happen if she dosent (ie disease and effect on her loved ones through secondhand smoke). Then, show her medicines and support groups to help her. Good luck.
2006-06-16 15:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Fool on the Hill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't nag your Mom with constant negatives about her bad habit. Just tell her, every day, that you love her and that you respect her and that you hope she will make the right choice soon. Tell her that you need her to be healthy for you, that you deserve a healthy Mom!
2006-06-16 15:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by Lily49 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋