I've been best friends with this girl for 5 years, we talk about everything and have never hooked up. We've both dated other people over the years but both fail miserably. We both had a little crush on each other when we were 15 or so and now that we're 20 i think i'm in love with her...how do i tell her and what can i do?
2006-06-16 12:37:01 · 17 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her how you feel. She'll either be flattered and say let's remain friends -- or be overjoyed that you finally noticed.
2006-06-16 12:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she liked you a lot, and that she might still like you because you 'talk about everything'. If she shows you a lot of affection, like touching you when she speaks and smiling and laughing a lot, the chances are great that she loves you as much as you love her.
With my best friend and I, the circumstances are very similar. One day when we were at his house with some friends watching a movie, we started holding hands. From then on, we kinda knew we had feelings for each other. We're still 'happily after ever' right now =).
Once you guys have a higher level of relationship than right now, try to keep yourself the same, as in don't change your personality too much.
You two will live happily ever after! Good luck!
2006-06-16 12:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by Breakdancer Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 5 years... DANG! well if you truly are in love with her well........lets say its her birthday get her a really nice present, then ask if you can tlk to her alon (just incase she has a huge party) then tlk about how yall have been best friends since like forever, and that yall have little crushes and like you said in the question **you have had past relationships that never worked out** . Then you hit the BANG of the conversation! Ask her about getting together *as boyfriend and girlfriend* and say
" Well i just wanted to see how we would like each other if we were more than just best friends" Every great relationship starts as friends, best friends, then marriage. My friend tld me the other day ***" HEY Angela! Did you know that on this thingy it said that you are likely to fall in love with your best friend!! ISNT THAT CRAZY!! Maybe me and Phillip can get together or something"*** she also likes her bestfriend also ( we are only in the 7th grade!!) Well try my advice!!! I always give my friends awsome advice!! WEll GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-16 12:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by gIrLy GiRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the one hand, if she's your best friend, then not telling her how you feel would be a disservice to the friendship. I think this is the key.
On the other hand, if you tell her and she doesn't reciprocate, you may lose that friendship. Are you willing for that to happen?
If I had a good friend whom I was in love with, I would rather risk losing her to tell her how I feel than have to live in an emasculated hell for years not telling her. (...actually I did the latter two or three times in life, which is probably why I'm not willing to do it anymore LOL)
Telling her how you feel, and being confident when you do so, takes "balls". And women are attracted to guys with "balls". So there you go.
2006-06-16 12:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by mcskwayrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're best friends, it should be pretty easy to tell her. But tell her in a kinda subtle way because you don't want to make the friendship uncomfortable of the relationship doesn't work out. A friendship is a good base for a relationship, though. So go for it.
2006-06-16 13:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahah... i went through the exact same thing. and youre probably not in love with her, you just realized that she is the woman you have had the most profound feelings towards ever. im sure you love her, but thats not the same thing. there may be something to sleeping with her and getting it over with and moving on, but personally i think that if you wait it out it will go away. give it six months. if its love, it will still be there. if its not, then you didnt jeopardize the relationship for nothing. because dating her will probably end the friendship. at least for awhile.
2006-06-16 12:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by janushyde01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude im in the same position except ive only been best friends with this girl for about a year. Many people have said to me to go out with this girl. I think i might try it. Because your older that me many people have said that relationships with friends work out when your older and sometimes you end up getting married and thats when marriages last.
2006-06-16 12:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by macgradywade13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule number one, (Are you reading this, I hope you are) do not under any circumstances, fall in love with your bestfriend! That's a big no-no. Trust me on this! (I speak from experience.) Friends don't fall in love with each other! If the two of you have a falling out, it's gonna get really, really weird.
2006-06-16 12:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kooties 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you both know each other really well and i think you should ask her if she still likes you or if your scared that that might ruin the friendship then maybe you should have one of her friends talk to her and see if she even still likes you and if she does then ask her out and if not then just continue the friendship, cause you don't want to ruin the friendship you already have.
2006-06-16 12:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by pink angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋