2006-06-16 12:25:26 · 15 answers · asked by sweetchick19002003 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No guy is worth feeling that much anguish over... there are plenty of guys out there... I hope you realize that you will find better. =) Cheer up!
2006-06-16 12:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Almost MD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately almost everyone will go through something like this.
To love is sometimes to lose. You won't believe me now, but someday you will look back at this and thank God. Everything happens for a reason...and there is a reason for this.
You will grow through the pain and realize that God had a better plan in mind for you. I went through the same thing and I realize now, that even though I thought I would die...I would have never met my husband if I was with that guy. In retrospect, I was too young to realize that he was self-centered, addicted to mom and vodka, and really couldn't care about anyone. I thought it was my fault...that I wasn't pretty or smart enough. He liked making me feel that way. It wasn't me at all. I put him on a pedestal he didn't deserve. Have faith and let go...let happen what will happen and have faith it is the right thing. If he comes back then you have your answer...if he doesn't thank goodness you won't be spending your life with someone who can't care for you...or perhaps anyone.
If you are suicidal go to a psychiatrist asap and get on an anti-depressant. In several weeks you will start to feel better, and like there is hope. You won't have to be on anti-depressants forever...just for now. Treat them as band-aids to help you heal.
It is important to keep your self esteem intact. No begging, no crying, no pleading. Do not give away your power or your integrity. If he is yours he will come back...if he doesn't- nothing you do will change a thing.
Don't bother trying to 'show' him how much you love him, or what he's missing, or acting out and doing crazy things! It will make him feel more justified that your crazy. Let go and have faith that the universe will set things right...because it always does.
There is a book call Co-depends No More that addresses the panic, depression and fear you are experiencing.
True love does last forever. Sorry this wasn't...your time is still to come.
Please believe.........
things are going to be okay. Keep your head up and realize that there is more in store for you. Better than him. Take care of you...you have been deeply wounded and need your friends, family and a little extra care. Take care of yourself.
2006-06-17 01:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Eric A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because just like anything else in our lives, you feel as though you have suffered a great lose in the relationship department. Girlfriend, get yourself together. If there is one lesson I take with me in life is that w/ every experience you learn something from it and move on. This guy leaving you may be an opportunity for the right guy to come alone. So put up the sad song cds and think about walking on sunshine w/ someone else. In the meantime, shopping is the best therapy for moving on, that and a nice meal w/ friends.
2006-06-16 19:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by aj1908 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that depressed over a guy, you should look for help medically or from a close friend or relative. I am sure that if this guy does not feel the same then try to find some one else even more special. No guy or girl is worth taken your live for and if you are a teenager you will go out of it.
2006-06-16 19:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by s5659h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause it hurts. And you're young. And you have crisp feelings and hormones. After a time, when you mature, you'll understand that you should live your life to make yourself happy, not to give it up and be so needy that you HAVE to have a guy to make you happy. Get involved in something new and stop thinking about "him"; when you least expect it, you will find a new guy because you're so sure of yourself and have matured. It's simply life honey. Never worth killing yourself . Life is a gift; don't let some idiot take it from you. God Bless.
2006-06-16 19:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is just silly. The hurt is real and understandable but life will and should go on.
If it doesn't work out with this guy you will find another (and most likely another and another and so on.) That is the way it goes for everyone. You did not invent heartache. It is just an unfortunate part of life. Happens to everyone and it hurts us just as bad as this is hurting you.
2006-06-16 19:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by bigrob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to hurt for a while. You are grieving and grief is never easy. Just take it one day at a time. Stay busy, talk it out. A lot of times writing down your feelings helps. Remember everyone who has ever lived and loved has also been where you are at now. You are not alone.
2006-06-16 19:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the details of your situation, but we all go through one of those bad relationships were we feel we can't even breathe. If this person doesn't value you for what you are, what makes you think he will later. Like my mom said to me years ago, it is better to cry for 3 months than to cry for a lifetime. It will hurt, but you will survive. Someone better will come later - it happened to me. Stay strong. Use this time to prepare for that better person that will come your way. Take care.
2006-06-16 19:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lucia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Ben. It's gonna take time, but you'll get over him and find someone better. That will be a much better result than not living any more. Hang in there and you'll be glad you did some day.
2006-06-16 19:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ben is right; there is no guy (or girl) worth hurting that much over. I know it may not be easy, but try to get over it as soon as you can, and enjoy who you are, and all the other guys out there!
2006-06-16 19:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT HURTS BECAUSE THATS A NORMAL FEELING FOR WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH,ITS A NORMAL REACTION TO WANT TO FIX AND CHANGE THINGS AND WHEN WE CANT, WE FEEL HELPLESS,BUT YOU SHOULD NEVER WANT TO NOT LIVE ANYMORE,THIS IS SOMETHING THAT YOU NEED TO OVERCOME AND LEARN FROM MAYBE IN YOUR NEXT RELATIONSHIP YOU WONT FEEL THIS WAY THERE ARE REAONS FOR ALL WE GO THROUGH ABD BETTER THINGS LIE AHEAD,SAY TO OUTLOUD EVERYTIME YOU THINK OR MISS HIM SAY HIS NAME AND THEN TELL HIM GOODBYE,I DID THIS NOT LESS THEAN 3 MONTHS AGO I WENT THROUGH A BREAKUP AND IT HELPED ME SO MUCH,GOOD LUCK AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP LIFE HAPPENS BUT IT ALWAYS COMES OUT POSITIVE IN THE END
2006-06-16 20:03:41 · answer #11 · answered by pattyokla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋