Is it normal for my boyfriend not calling me for a few days? i always accuse him of cheating on me and he keep telling me no and he laught's at me saying haha u think am gonna cheat on u wut kind of person do u think i am and if i do who am i gonna cheat on you with? and i say one of ur bitches that i don't know about ... but the thing is he's a shy guy and he's too innocent i know he's not doing anything but still i wonder wut he did that he didnt get a chance to contact me that long...
and i know a relationship should be built on trust... i trust him an all but still why havnt he call me? he told me he's busy with school and i believe him... but aren't u supposed to talk to ur girlfriend everyday? don't you wanna know wut she did all day long?
can someone help?? i really need to know wut to do..
thanx alot
**LIL MISS VIXION**
2006-06-16 11:43:48 · 17 answers · asked by LIL MISS VIXION 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were the guy, you'd have scared me off already! SAYING you trust someone and actually trusting them are different. Stop giving him such a hard time, hon. Not everyone wants to live in each others pockets all the time. Chill!
2006-06-16 11:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by googlywotsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a shy guy I probably wouldnt worry much at all. It is very unlikely that he is cheating on you. There could be a billion reasons he hasnt called you.
Lucky, phones work in two ways, so you can go ahead and give him a call and see how he is doing. Tell him you havent heard from him in a while, and you wanted to touch bases with him and see how he is doing. Then tell him not to work too hard, and that you care a lot about him, and stop bringing up the cheating.
There is no reason to bring up the cheating thing. Worrying about it does nothing, and harassing him all the time about it isnt good either... It just makes you look like you have no self confidence.
Im sure your a beautful person and im sure he cares very much about you. I would not worry that he hasnt called you in a day or two. He is probably caught up in a lot of work. Just give him a quick call and make sure he is ok.
Either the relationship will work out or it wont. But harrasing him about little things is not a good way to build a relationship. As you said, trust is the way. And if he does end up breaking that trust, then just move on to the next guy, and hope he is better.
Look on the positive side of things. Maybe you could even do something sweet and sentamental for him in this busy time. Send him some flowers, or some hand baked cookies or whatever he likes. Just surprise him! Guys dig that.
2006-06-16 11:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by calcdffirefighter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to talk at least once a day if it is long-distance. I would be a little suspicious too- but don't go overboard just because of this incident.
Is it plausible that his job or classes (or whatever he's away doing) could really keep him that busy for a few days?
Just chill out with him on the questions- b/c if he's not doing anything, then it could push him away. I mean- think about how you might feel in that situation. And if he is guilty, he's not going to answer truthfully anyway.
Maybe you can plan to visit him wherever he is. Or he can come back to see you for a weekend or whatever.
Good luck!
2006-06-16 11:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by sundrizzler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling insecure. If you really trusted him you would believe him if he said he was busy. Shy guys are less likely to cheat, take some comfort in that.
And no, it's not necessary to talk every day, although frequent communication is recommended for long-distance relationships. Maybe he's chosen a hard major or has hard classes, and is too busy to call even though he would like to talk to you.
2006-06-16 11:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a long distance relationship, so I can understand your concerns. They're not irrational, they're natural.
If you haven't heard from your loved one in a few days, it doesn't mean he's cheating. He could be busy or just plain forgot. It happens. I'd suggest calling him, even if you have to leave a voicemail. Maybe even email him or send him a cute yahoo greeting ecard saying "i love you."
Boyfriends don't HAVE to talk to girlfriends everyday, nor vice versa. It's normal and in fact healthy to have some distance, particularly if you're a younger dating couple.
I would suggest not telling him he's always cheating unless you have solid proof. You're hurting his feelings and trust in you when you accuse him like that. He could be avoiding talking to you because he doesn't want to deal with any insults.
2006-06-16 11:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by lookdontlook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in 2. One did not paintings, yet i imagine it turned right into a lot less via distance and larger because i became 18 and in no way feeling like being tied to at least one human being. the different easily worked noticeably properly until eventually after exceedingly a lot a three hundred and sixty 5 days we finally lived interior an same city, lol. back, even if, that one ended for causes thoroughly unrelated to the gap, because through the time it ended we were residing below 2 miles from one yet another. edit: lol @ Siar
2016-11-14 21:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal in long distance relationship that this could be happened, now were talking about "TRUST". you said your boyfriend is so innocent to cheat you? I couldn't imagine how innocent is he? but this all I can say. if you really love him find a way to make this relationship work, dint just stay there and wait until he calls you.if you stick with your ego nothing will happen.
If the fire on your partners candle stop burning dont let others rekindle it for you.
2006-06-16 12:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lindberg Bobis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Ms. Vixen, I understand us girls love to hear that we are needed and wanted fromt he men in our lives so they are suppose to talk to us everyday and ask us the pettiest things from how are you feeling to what did you do before you fell asleep last night. But a few days without chatting makes it all the mroe interesting when both of you do finally talk. There will be more things and new events to discuss. But what I do want you to realize is liek my mother and grandmother have always told me, long distance relationships make four people happy!!! Think about that analyze your feelings for this man and I hope everything goes well...
2006-06-16 11:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel it is dumb to have a long distance relationship. First they could be cheating on u and u would not know. Sure it is easy to tell u that he is not cheating anybody could do that. I mean he could be busy wit school but also he could be cheating u never know. Me personally I would not have a long distance relationship because u wont know what he is doing. But we could be differ ant and have differ ant minds. So I would do what I feel in my heart.
2006-06-16 11:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by gemini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was probably busy, and if my girl was accusing me of cheating on her, it wouldnt exactly inspire me to call every night, it would make me think she doesnt trust me and id probably break up with her. There is no rule that says you are supposed to talk to your girlfriend every day, you just wish there was because you need that constant reassurance. If you need to be told you are cared about on a daily basis, you don't have much faith in this relationship.
2006-06-16 11:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋