Has being an adopted child affected you or your development? Has it had an influence on your emotional life? Do you still feel the effects of adoption in your ability to form lasting relationships? I'd really like to hear the opinions of others. As for me the answer is a very big yes, I think it has.
2006-06-16 11:35:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was adopted by my maternal grandma and stepgrandpa (my brother was too). We were very young (I was 2 1/2 years old; he was 5 months old). Our birth mother grew up around us, so I got to know her, as much as she would allow, that is. Our birth father wasn't allowed to see us. We met him when I was 20 and my brother was 18. We have gotten close over the past 21 years.
As for how I felt about being adopted and how it affected my life: I felt as if my parents were too old and didn't understand (but most kids feel this way). I didn't feel 'abandoned' until I was in my teens as that is when our birth mother got into trouble with the law and has been running ever since. I have seen her a few times since then, but she won't allow anyone to get too close to her emotionally. I had to learn how to deal with her abandoning me a second time, which affected how I acted around guys. I always thought that they would abandon me like she did. In a way, my ex husband did this (he had numberous affairs, many I only suspect; 2 I know about). He wasn't there for me emotionally like I wanted and needed.
I am lucky in the fact that I now have a totally understanding fiance that is there for me in every way possible. I have slowly learned how to deal with abandonment issues (lots of counseling and time), but it was hard work.
2006-06-16 12:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Nope, fortunately I wasn't, because I think that if I had been adopted, I wuld also anser "yes" to all those questions. Being adopted is hard, can make you even fall into depressions, but it has also some advantages (I can't find one now) Well, I hope the best for you in all your life. Have a nice day!
2006-06-16 18:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My adopted family was ok, but there was always the urge to know about my real parents and my roots. That urge I still carry.
I have no problem with the adoption and it influences me in that I am a member of Bastard Nation and am pro-adoption information for adoptees when they become adults. I also am pro-adoption for children who are not "cute" little babies. They are the hardest to find homes for and they need love and a stable family too.
2006-06-16 18:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Seikilos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was and yes, it had a huge effect on who he is today. We have known eachother since we were young and he has always been an outsider with them. Not only physically, but emotionally,as well as his personality. He still has huge issues with feeling accepted and has alot of resentment towards his parents for not being more accepting of who he is. I try to be his very accepting of him and he is very close to my parents, but he seems to have this huge void where his parents should be. As a child he was ADHD and his mother never knew how to deal with it. She was very strict and punished him constantly. It was like because he was not like them, he was wrong. He has gotten to the point where he avoids them completely, and we only live a few blocks apart. I wish it were different for him and he is a wonderful person despite it all, but I can't help but wonder if he would be like if he had grown up with acceptance.
2006-06-16 18:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by danac210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i was not adopted
but i have just found out that i have a brother who was given for adoption and now i am desperate to find him
would you like contact with your natural family? or should i not try to find him?
2006-06-17 10:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by rabiyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I was not adopted
2006-06-16 18:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope but my lil brother is.
2006-06-16 18:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope im with my real parents
2006-06-16 18:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope..im with my real parents....
uugghh i wish i was adopted!!!
2006-06-16 18:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by punknana_a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, nor do I know my daddy's name
2006-06-16 18:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by candlemia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋