My son's grandparents (his dad's parents) bought him a bike for his 2nd birthday. They get aggravated when he doesn't want to play with it. The stuff they buy him is way too advanced for a 2 year old. They also get pissed when the expensive outfits they buy for him get dirty. How can I clue them in, in a nice way? They get offended really easily.
2006-06-16 11:34:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not married, but my ex is the same way. He got him a football for his birthday!
Come on! I'm not afraid of offending him so I told him he was stupid for thinking a 2 year old could play football. He just rolled his eyes
2006-06-16 11:46:38 · update #1
wow, they sound determined to be upset.
the only thing you can do is nicely explain things. 'a 2 year old needs a trike'...'children get dirty, we are more concerned about him having fun'
maybe you could ask mom for some suggestions on what she did to get stains out of her kids clothes.
you gotta just be happy in your life and not try too hard to please in-laws who won't be pleased
2006-06-16 11:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to be direct. Tell them that toys and games are marked with what age they are appropriate for.Some items are not suitable for younger kids because of small parts that can be swallowed.Safety is a priority over a toy that is too advanced for the child.Why would the grandparents pick something that the child is unable to enjoy. Perhaps they would be better giving you a gift certificate in stead of a gift.As for clothes don't worry about it.Maybe they buy toys so he won't play with them and get his clothes dirty.There is no nice way to approach this type of person.
2006-06-16 16:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile and reassure them as sweetly as you can that you're sure he'll be interested in the bike soon. And sweetly tell them how hard it is to keep him clean. Killing them with kindness is the only way to go here, then even if they get offended, they still can't say you were mean to them. Bottom line is, it's not your fault he gets dirty and doesn't know how to ride a bike yet and if they blame you, then they're being unfair. Was your husband riding a bike at age 2 and was always pristinely clean? Don't think so.
2006-06-16 11:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them the truth. "He is not old enough for that kind of gift". If they get upset and angry that is their problem. Also they may look at you as not knowing what you are doing as a parent. Many do that. You parent as you see fit and your son will turn out fine. You can only listen if the answers sound logical to you. Don't let them bully you by trying to force something that they should ask the parents first. Where does your husband stand on this?
2006-06-16 11:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Take pictures of your grandson in the outfits when they are nice and clean and give them to his grandparents. You can joke with them about buying toys that are beyond his capabilities, just say, you understand, we think he is really smart and advanced for his age too and as soon as he is ready for this, he will play with it. And we will let you know so that you can come over and enjoy it. Thank them and just forget about it.
2006-06-16 11:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 21:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are too shy to tell your son's grandparents , or are scared that it will cause a big affair um, tell your ex-husband (i'm guessing) that his parents shouldn't get him toys that aren't age appropriate for him. i think
2006-06-16 11:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by FAMILY_GUY_FAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋