I mean true to have known love is a wonderful thing.. but the pain from losing is just makes you want to die..wouldnt you be better off to not have loved , at least you would never have to know the unbearable pain of losing it, and wondering if you will ever fell that way again...
2006-06-16 10:24:42 · 15 answers · asked by bubblyblonde002200 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the saying is true...relationships can be amazing and life changing. They make us feel alive, like never before.
But when they end, they make us feel like death doesn't sound so bad.
Would you really want to live your life never knowing what love can be?
Even though failed relationships hurt and our hearts break, they make us stronger. They help us understand what we or the other person did wrong. That information can then be applied to the new relationship and hopefully, history does not repeat itself.
I like to think of the elder couples, that take walks and sit on park benches feeding birds together....they took a chance and after 50+ years of marriage are still together and happy. It's a dream to strive for.
If death takes one, the other knows that they will soon be reunited and that their departed loved one waits for them at St. Peter's gate.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Sure, you can be a hermit and never risk being hurt again. Keeping everyone at a distance and not letting a single person close to your heart, but what kind of life is that?
It's our successes and failures that make life worth living or else you're just a waste of good potential.
Dare to live and you'll find life and love is worth the risks!!!
2006-06-16 10:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Toybear_mav 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, I really believe that loving and being loved is THE most incredible feeling ever created. It by far outweighs being hurt. Because, like they say, 'Every song ends, but is that any reason not to enjoy the music?' Some of my worst breakups have resulted in my having a great friend because I remembered how much I loved being around that guy, and soon, I forget how much I cried, how much I laid in the dark thinking it would just be easier to die, or watched romance movies in a deep depression. Because once, I was happier than I could ever imagine again. And before I know it, someone else will be knocking on my door. Don't give up.
2006-06-16 17:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have loved and lost twice...and now I'm damn lonely and this is something that went through my mind a couple of nights ago. I sighed and told myself, I'm still blessed because i have loved and lost than never have loved at all.
Why? because I've got some memories to look back, though i may feel some pain that i lost the girl of my dreams, i feel nonetheless happy because she loved me a lot for 4 years. We went through a lot of tough times, but we spent wonderful times laughing and when she cried, we'd end up laughing and comforting each other. I know that I am blessed to have her at some point in my life. It hurts but in the long run, it's better to think about the love we shared.
I love her a lot and I still do.
2006-06-16 17:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much pain as relationships are when they dont last they do serve as a good source of information for new relationships.. You learn more about yourself with each relationship, while a failed relationship is painful sometimes people need them in thier lives to be able to find MR/MRS Right, Take the experiences you have gained from the failed relationship and apply them to the new one and hopefully it will make a stronger relationship then the last.
2006-06-16 17:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by ambermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I'd rather not have loved at all than to have to go through the pain of the loss. Especially when you are aware of the reasoning behind it all, satisfaction so they say, my such a lame excuse. For doing what....loving, caring, honesty. Oh well, just feel good about yourself and know that others are with you in your loss and we'll all make it through some how or another.Don't have much of a choice anyway.........Keep smiling :o)
2006-06-16 17:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally true. Life is about learning and growing. Love is a wonderful feeling and though it hurts to have to let go, you gain so much from the experience. You use that experience to adjust and re-evaluate how you choose to do things in your next relationship. Our past make us who we are today.
2006-06-16 17:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by MemphisGal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never love another person the same way, but yes you can love again and maybe even deeper love.
2006-06-16 17:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by HastyBabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question....but i guess i;ll go with loved an lost..the pain does get better with time
2006-06-16 17:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably one can grow with simple experiences even if they are not delightful or successful. Maybe they help one see things from another's point of view?
2006-06-16 17:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the way the world is and you have your answer
Obviously, people have to say Yes, otherwise they would not go there. And we go there, all of us, everyday.
2006-06-16 17:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by nortonsuzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋