I am 20 and I am really in love with my gf who is 18! I proposed to her last night and she said yes!! problem is her parents and my parents don't want us to be together!! they have tried everything to break us up!! do any of yall have any advice?!?!
2006-06-16 10:19:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we also want it to be a longer engagement cuz we don't wanna rush things!! I want her to finish college and do whatever she wants
2006-06-16 10:19:48 · update #1
Just be patient with them and let them get use to the idea that you are now engaged. This is a initial reaction, and as a parent I know if my children are serious about a decision I might not like, I will eventually be won over by them being more mature than me. If your parents try to break you up, prepare your self's so that there is no miss communication between you and your fiancee', so their attempts will fail. The fact that you are of age and not luring this over their heads, and want their blessings tells me your probably both a pretty mature couple. In the meantime, just stay fast to your engagement, stick together on this issue, and give them time to realize that you are going to get" married" in time, and I bet eventually they will jump on the band wagon, and you and your financee' will have full support of the families.
2006-06-16 10:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you propose to her if you're not going to get married for at least another four years? I have been dating my bf for 4 years now and we do want to get married but we realized that we're in college and we want to wait until at college. So he gave me a promise ring instead, a promise that we will get married after college it looks like an engagement ring but I wear it on my right hand. If you really want her parents to accept you, you really shouldn't have rushed things and proposed there could have been other alternatives like what my bf and I did. Also many families like it when you ask the father for his permission in marry his daughter, little things like that make a big difference in her parents liking you and shows respect and maturity. Also I would explain to your parents and their's that you are planning on waiting until after college to get married that would make them both feel better, i bet. Other than that if you feel up to it sit down with her parents, without her and explain to them how much their daughter means to you and the feelings you have for her, this could really make them change their minds about you two, because right now they probably think this is your first love and you are rushing through it. Communication with help out and resolve your problem.
2006-06-16 17:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ashlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing if you two really love each other and enjoy being together their is nothing wrong with you two getting married she is old enough your old enough to make that decision. Don't let either of ya'lls parents get in between you two.Yes it's a good idea to wait a while so she can finish college and so you both can get to know each other more. Ya'lls parent's are just trying protect you both,but it sounds like they are being too overprotective. Tell them if they want you to be happy than let you make this decision with your gf, you love her you want to spend the rest of your life with her and tell her to do the same with her parents.Good luck and Congrats!God Bless you both.
2006-06-16 17:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the parents know that you plan on having a long engagement and that she will still finish school ? I'm sure that is what they are most concerned with since both of you are so young.
2006-06-16 17:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are off age, they cant tell you what to do. It isnt like you are going to get married at the end of the year! Just finish school and take things slow until it is time.
2006-06-16 17:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it religion that the parents dont want you 2 together. this could be a big problem. if not just take yr time they might come to terms if you 2 tough.
2006-06-16 17:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say that if u love her n u think she is the one go for it no matter wat ur parents say cuz they arent always gonna be around for u eventually theyll go away n who will u be left with someone you dont want? im sure theyll come around once they realize that u are really in love and serious enough to marry despite theyre feelings after all they are ur parents
2006-06-16 17:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋