Sometimes love needs some help...what do you think??

Question

As many others, a friend of mine felt in love with her best friend. Although he expressed all his feelings to her, she clarified that they are and will be only friends. As a friend, I am convinced that they deserve and complement each other in every aspect of their lives…they just need to shake up a little.
I suggested him to stop seeing, calling her and/or be available for her. I also made up a fake beautiful girlfriend jus to make her jealous and justify his absence.
Even these actions sounds like teenager’s issues; I am convinced that this measures will clarify the situation in order to discover if she really feels something about my friend.

Do you think that these actions are correct or love should not be forced by anyone?
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Answer 1

true love is magical needs no aid from anybody. not to knock your intent I know you do this because you care but love works alone and it should. from what i see the love was one sided so isnt worth forcing.

Answer 2

sometimes i trust like love will provide me the flexibility for doing many stuff and attaining many stuff in my existence. and that i'm no longer speaking about self love. it may help me triumph over such diverse hindrances and stuff. yet in the period in-between that's my own self love that's transferring me through my way. do i ever imagine that each and each man or woman i choose is love? no. what about phantasm, inventive and prescient, and delusion. that's likewise necessary in our lives. to make sure what this existence is like and keep in mind that we are able to make a contribution some thing for the wellbeing of people. i imagine that has little to do with love. or is that only yet another type of affection.

Answer 3

These are feelings and most of the time people go with their first judgement about a person. Sometimes love does need help, I agree, but only when both parties love eachother. They need help to over come certain obstacles such as parents not wanting them to be together.

Answer 4

I have a male friend, who happens to be my best friend, my friends and family and even my bf thinks that I am compatiable with him, but I disagree because I think that once we step into the realm of "boyfriend/girlfriend" I wouldn't confide to him as my best friend. Sometimes friendship does lead to love, but it shouldn't be forced.

Answer 5

Sounds like a good plan, however you should question your motives for implementing it. Are you doing this out of love and compassion for two of your friends or for other more selfish reasons?

Answer 6

I agree with what others have said. Your friend shouldn't push her like that. If she doesn't love him, he should accept it and continue to be there for her as her best friend. He can still hope she will change her mind, but I see withdrawing as a threatening gesture ("if you reject me you'll lose my friendship"), and that's not right.

Answer 7

I believe love will happen in its own time, and to try to manipulate it will only worsen the situation. Let it be and let it happen when it should...i know you think you're helping but really you could be jeopardizing it. If they are meant to be then it will happen. I strongly believe it.

Answer 8

You, my friend, are stirring the pot and you should mind your own business before one or both of them dumps you as their friend.
Sorry to be harsh, but that's really how I see it.

Answer 9

you are a meddler and this will end badly

i just wish i was in your friend circle so i could watch the fireworks

keep me informed

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Answer 10

why not buy your friend an inflatable woman, it is all he will have left after all your "help"