I am having trouble with getting some one to take care of my daughter and won't like to leave her with her dad who is not responsible at all. I just find out if I don't go with my unit to Iraq I would be getting kick out the military. When I got in, I didn't care about goin any where in the world, I didn't have a baby then, but know is really difficult to leave her with some one who can take care of her. Please some one have any ideas, I need help!
2006-06-16 10:09:20 · 23 answers · asked by malee198310 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that is such bull sh** that they can do that to you.
i would get kicked out if it meant staying with my child, my baby is more important. there are enough single people to go to shitty iraq why send single parents? i think that pres bush should take care of you baby if he want you there.
wish you luck and hope your baby has a mom when its over.
THANKS BUSH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-27 07:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by robkim04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have responsible parents or siblings who could take care of her? If you don't your only option may be to leave the child with her father. Maybe he's not so irresponsible after all. People get caught up in the other parent being the bad guy that they don't step back and see that maybe the other parent loves the child just as much as they do. Step away from whatever problems the two of you had and it's quite possible you will see that dad is not all that bad after all.
2006-06-26 05:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally sympathize with you. My husband and I are both military. He is currently deployed in Iraq and I'm set to go in September. Right now our daughter is 6 months old.
Talk with your parents and see if they would take her for the time you are gone. Or if you have a trusted friend that is not military that could take care of her.
Not sure what service you are in but you should have something like a family care plan. If you do - ask them.
Best of luck!
SingleMomof10
Of course you can get a pregnancy discharge - but not with a deployment lined up. Deployments are first priority over separation.
2006-06-16 10:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by mrsstephaniekay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there any other family members you could leave her with? If not, maybe one of the wives of the men in your unit could take her in...the military is a family as well, they will help you if they can. Go to your higher ups and ask them what you should do, if they have any avenues you can pursue. When my husband was deployed and I had to move, all I had to do was call some of the guys left behind with the unit and they came and helped me. There is help out there you just have to look and ask for it. Good luck and be safe in Iraq!
2006-06-16 10:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by usmc9252004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be grounds for a hardship discharge, but no guarentees. This is why I don't believe single parents should be allowed to enlist. So many women end up in this position and it's in no one's best interest, including our armed forces. When did we get so hard up that we have to have mothers of babies doing our fighting for us?
I was in the Army, but was given an honorable discharge when I became pregnant.
Hope something turns up for you. Spending a year with an irresponsible Dad may change her in ways you can't get back. Fortunatly, she's young.
2006-06-16 10:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Singlemomof10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to go to your Commanding Officer and have a long talk with him. You might just possibly be able to get discharged. I believe the military still gives out humanitarian discharges. This is a discharge through no fault of yours you would be able to get discharged honorably and stay with the little one.
You need to tell your C.O. how irresponsible the father is and you do not feel comfortable leaving the child with him.
Go to your commanding officer and talk to him NOW!!
OK? You need to stay with your child. There are others who can go to Iraq.
2006-06-24 04:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be quit the military and take care of your kid!!!! Being in the military and traveling the world is fine when it's just you but now you have a kid and a responsibility to that kid!!
2006-06-16 10:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Stranger In Maine™♥ (Thriller) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obvious answer would be for her to stay with a close family relative...such as your parents, a sibling, cousin, etc. Is that a possibility? Have you made arrangements for your daughter's care if (heaven forbid) you do not return? That is something else you must consider.
P.S. Where do you live? Feel free to contact me via email.
2006-06-16 10:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by ilse72 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be really important to have a healthy bond with someone right now that you could trust. Not necessarily a mate. But someone you could really trust. And you would have to make sure that whoever the child is with, your ex can't take her away when you're gone. It might be beneficial to you to check into temporary foster care; if needed.
2006-06-16 10:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by runner45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states have a voluntary foster system for situations just like yours. If you cosider the option you can talk to a dhs case worker.
2006-06-16 10:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋