I have been seeing a guy for about 2 and a half months and all the sudden he says he wants to be somewhere between dating and friends with benefits. What should I do? I don't want to loose him
2006-06-16 10:02:48 · 7 answers · asked by Kim H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know him better, I guess.
I asked the same to a girlfriend years ago and she dumped me. The problem was that she was going way too fast. She planned our marriage at a time when I didn't even live by myself. Her expectations were far away from my possibilities, so I tried to convince her of being just friends with benefits to slow down our relation. I loved her and in my mind it seemed great to marry her, but I just couldn't take it to talk about the future that way. It hurt.
This guy, if he was a moron, would just promise you everything and cheat you everyday. Asking to be friends with benefits seems a very honest way to say: let's take the next step.
Couples can't be successful if sex fails, so take it like a chance to see if he knows how to treat you.
2006-06-16 10:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Carlos Sosa 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you lie down and play doormat for him? This is essentially what he's asking. If you didn't want an exclusive relationship and were ok with friends with benefits than I suspect you wouldn't be asking us. You won't get him back by playing this game. I've been there. It only works if you're just looking for a good time. You seem to want more so this will not at all work for you. Find yourself a guy who will put you on a pedestal like you deserve to be, not one who lets everyone wipe their feet on you as they come in the door.
2006-06-16 17:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's basically telling you that your good enough to have sex with but not good enough to be a gf. Unless that is what your looking for as well you should tell him to hit the road. Your probably only going to get hurt in the long run if you dont.
2006-06-16 17:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it...if you are "friends w/benefits" then he can go out with anyone...anytime...and have sex benefits with them too.
He wants you for sex...not as a girlfriend or potential life partner.
Open your eyes and find someone that will respect you. He certainly doesn't.
You deserve better. I promise!
2006-06-16 17:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um, sounds like he just wants a piece whenever he wants and in return he'll make you feel good about it by taking you out to dinner. that's messed up. i guess if you want you could still have sex with him, but if you have real feelings involved, then break it off.
2006-06-16 17:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by hg mccain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When guys say this it means that they want to have sex with you without commiting to you. Leaving themselves free to have sex with other women. I understand you don't want to lose him, but you have to respect yourself enough to kick him to the curb.
2006-06-16 17:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by curiousgeorgia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him, he's looking for a regular piece of a** without the commitment part
2006-06-16 17:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋